Violin, I don't think women contact men that much (myself excepted!).
I'm finding, older guys contact me, and much much younger guys. Anybody remotely age-appropriate, I've had to contact them. Which is bad, because I have an issue around pursuing unavailable guys, and really need someone to pursue me for a change. But the only guys pursuing me at the moment are the East Coast guy who is 3,000 miles away, and a charming and persistent 27 year old! Yikes.
Yeah, I figured that. I guess I have to keep in mind all the go get em' type guys that I am competing with! One interseting thing happened though...
I have an older female friend(44)who has told me about her cousin a few times."She is so cute and funny, you guys should meet." Well, you all know how that goes right? So I ignored her for the most part. Last night I clicked on my "matches" and the 'singled out" match that came up was my friends cousin! Out of 900 women the match computer matched me with her. She looks and sounds very nice so I sent her a message.
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You never know! I had a friend, his mother wanted to set him up with the daughter of her church friend, same ethnic group. He was a handsome young physician, the nurses in the hospital were falling over themselves to date him. Finally he agreed to meet the girl just to shut his mother up.
She turns out to be brilliant and a beautiful tall model-type - he proposed in 2 months!
I guess I have to keep in mind all the go get em' type guys that I am competing with!
Yup . Women with a very strong feminine energy will certainly respond to the go get 'em guys . Thing is, all you have to do is ask yourself what a confident guy would do and do it. Take risks, be prepared for disappointment/rejection, think of it all as an experiment, and see for yourself if it works for you to act confident. My guess is that you'll be pleasantly surprised at the rewards. I have seen guys totally transform and become 10x more attractive (not visually) after becoming more confident. It's a fake it until you make it kind of deal.
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I have seen guys totally transform and become 10x more attractive (not visually) after becoming more confident. It's a fake it until you make it kind of deal.
This is spot on. Women love confidence (men do, too).
Sounding upbeat, saying what you like/dislike, being upbeat. It's all about being clear and setting boundaries. Confidence w/o arrogance = golden in my book! Have you met anyone offline yet, Violine?
I have met a few offline but they were not really my type. They fizzled out in a couple weeks. Meeting women in everyday life is hard for me. I don't work at a place with a large group of people and I guess my GAL sucks! Maybe since wii dumped himself he might give me a chance? just kidding!lol
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. Women with a very strong feminine energy will certainly respond to the go get 'em guys 
. Thing is, all you have to do is ask yourself what a confident guy would do and do it. Take risks, be prepared for disappointment/rejection, think of it all as an experiment, and see for yourself if it works for you to act confident. My guess is that you'll be pleasantly surprised at the rewards. I have seen guys totally transform and become 10x more attractive (not visually) after becoming more confident. It's a fake it until you make it kind of deal.