Thanks pookie!!! Where is Cary Grant when I need him. Maybe I will transform into a young attractive blonde lady and sit at the bar playing handsy with you so you will be nicer to me
Careful now. There are already sexual confusion over at Pinhead's thread.
Saturday morning I was scrambling for ideas for another nice weekend and called some friends up. Nobody seemed to be available. W noticed my efforts and started surfing the net. Suddenly she whipped out her credit card and I saw Ticketmaster on her screen.
I asked what's going on, she replied, "We are going to a comedy show tonight at the casino."
So I followed her leading us (not like a puppy dog ) and we started early, stopping at our favorite seafood restaurant at the shoreline. Had a blast and proceeded to the casino.
She proceeded to show me off her liking to some of the table games. I did not play but she had fun. Won a little, lost a little.
The show was awesome. We were in tears laughing. It was the greatest time I've had in recent times.
Got back home and she suddenly got cranky. Too many wines and dogs acting up changed her mood drastically. She started taking her frustration out on me. Little that I knew at the time was that she also had a PMS. (Forgot to check my iPhone app )
Had I known I would have been easy on calling out the CB. I asked her why after all day of absolute blast did she feel the urge to disrespect me. Mistake.
She looked at me and said "Because I don't care. Do you think something has changed?"
I quickly reset myself, put a smile on and replied, "Actually I do think that a lot has changed, but that is a relationship talk and I will not have that with you right now."
Things immediately cooled down and we hung out with the dogs and watched some TV.
Sunday morning I ignored her for awhile. She ended up calling her mom to invite her and her partner over for dinner. They had other plans, but her mom had a broken water pipe and valve that needed to be replaced. My W placed the phone down and came over to me to explain the situation and asked if I was willing to fix the plumbing problem before her mom heads out to her evening festivities.
I like fixing things so I agreed. We loaded up the car with dogs and my plumbing doctor's kit and headed out.
Fix took me 2 hours and afterwards we hung out a bit. All of the sudden W started talking about the "future". It was all WE, WE, WE. It actually disturbed me a bit, but I did not agree or disagree.
We ended up coming home and she made a nice dinner. Afterwards she told me how she cancelled the PMI on our mortgage and how much money it would save US. Following by the excitement about her new car she ordered which will arrive in January and how much I would like to drive it.
I don't know what is going on right now and it should confuse me.
But I will keep focusing on the process not the outcome.
Walking between all the traps on the testing ground.
She looked at me and said "Because I don't care. Do you think something has changed?"
Statements are questions and questions are statements. What's she really telling you?
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It was all WE, WE, WE. It actually disturbed me a bit,
Why is it disturbing you? I bet your issue is the same message your wife is trying to tell you. Not all R talks are bad. If you are reacting then it's bad if you get ahead of the curve then you are leading the situation and acting in positive steps.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Got me back on the track again. I was just thinking the same thing about both of the statemets you made.
Questions are statements and statements are questions. That has bee going on a lot and I am catching up with that logic.
I guess it was not as much disturbing to hear her future talk as it was strange. I've been living a futureless life for so long and trained myself never to bring up anything past today.
I did tell her that I was looking forward to drive her new car in January and she smiled and said that I should be the first one to drive it after she brings it home.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Keep doing what works. Being cool about everything. Giving her what she wants while being totally confortable with myself.
How will you know when you achieve it?
When the master bedroom door gets left open.
What hasn't changed that needs to change?
Intimacy and affection. She has always been a little short in that department. That would be the last thing to conquer. Then I can talk about R and where we would collectively go from here.
Intimacy and affection. She has always been a little short in that department.
Change your perspective. What is it she needs to really feel comfortable, loved, relaxed, free and vunerable?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
) and we started early, stopping at our favorite seafood restaurant at the shoreline. Had a blast and proceeded to the casino.
