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Can I truly drop the rope if I move back in to my house?

Yes you can. It is harder but you can.

I agree with Time. Don't give up the higher ground.

And listen to a little Grateful Dead on Friday

I see you've got your fist out
Say your piece and get out
Yes I got the gist of it
But it's all right

Sorry that you feel that way
The only thing there is to say
Every silver lining's got a
Touch of grey

I will get by
I will get by
I will get by
I will survive

Yeah you can man.

I might seem all fluffy clouds, rainbows and unicorns, but do not move out of the house.

Her bad actions, behaviour and choices no matter the cause, and your the one leaving?

This one is for you.

And if somewhere deep down you think that leaving would make her happy in regard to you? That's right up there with thinking you can divorce her into loving you.

You most definately can.

Despite the fact that I've been severely beaten up by some respected vets here for not moving out of my house and missing out on the shock and awe value.

You can always do it later if needed.

I chose to spend more time doing what worked for me.

Mc revealed little. She is done with the marriage. Doesn't care to work on marriage just wants me to let her go but she wants to stay in house until divorce is finalized. I have son at my dads house. Wife wenty home. Son wanted to say goodnight to mom called and went straight to voicemail. Asked friend to see if wife is home. She is not. I see it for what it is

So it is easier to let go when she is blinded by her affair. No other way to explain the behavior. Gucci you were right

I want to fart symphonies and print my own money.

You don't have to enable her if she's having an affair.

You can make her staying there uncomfortable and remind her when she complains that she is free to leave. In fact, you'd prefer she leave is she thinks it's OK to chase other men.

In short, it's not OK to stay in your house while you pay for the bills, and she chases other men. If she doesn't believe that it's not right, you could offer to call up some of her family members and ask them what they think.

Time. Thanks for the answer when she starts her CB. I drove home a little while ago. Her car is in driveway she hasn't been home long she asked what was up I told her nothing I am moving BACK into my house. Rope dropped. Lord give me strength.