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Pookie I am trying.

She cancelled all plans to go out last night and today. She went for a ride on her jet ski. Some thing she has not done in a while. She broke down and had to call me to go get her and tow her in she is not the ice queen now.

Invited me to dinner with son. Nice dinner

I'm wondering if anyone here suggested you & she try Retrouvaille. It doesn't require a commitment to stay in the marriage or anything, just a desire (no matter how small) to work on seeing if the marriage can be saved (or not). My experience has been that the communication tools they teach are unique and extremely effective in getting helping a couple deeply understand each others' feelings.

And it can also help a couple gain clarity that they are not meant for each other, which helps both move on.

It's a WONDERFUL program, but Retrouvaille won't take you if one of the spouses is still actively involved in an affair, Arnie.

Starsky

And that is what I am not sure of yet.

I am aware of that, and that is something that they address in the pre-w/e interviews. I do know of couples where the affair is ended just prior to the w/e - in fact on ours, there was a husband who came to the retreat center right from ending it with OW.

Right, well it wouldn't work in Pcola's case, since his wife refuses to end her contact with OM.

I'm thinking if she wanted to work on the marriage, she might be more open to ending the A if she heard it from the RV folk.

Just a thought - if one doesn't ask, the answer is always "no."

So far. She knows that is coming. She said she won't be forced into that decision and I told it is her choice but it is not negoitiable. I am letting her decide. But I WILL enforce this boundry.