Thanks guys. Man this girl has me so hung up. She is all consuming. I had to put so much into making her happy. We were best friends but now she just switches gears and all the sudden has new friends and a new life while I am here struggling to pay the bills and perplexed stll in shock that 2 months ago almost she just walked. How do I get by this? How do I move on? She is not worth mt time I know but I was sooooo into her!!
Its a common story. Three months ago my wife and I were talking to doctors at a fertility clinic. Now we are filing for D. I'll never understand it. I don't have to.
Just remember two thigs, no matter what she says, you both made mistakes and when it came down to it YOU were willing to work for it, she bailed. You can stand tall no matter what.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
yes, I lost that ability and she walked all over me. I did all I could to try and make her appreciate the things she had. Jeez we took so many vacations last year so I could connect with her and she had one foot out the door. I am a great guy and she knows it but still chose to leave! 2 Months ago I was trying so hard and 2 months later she is gone. I miss her smell and her humor. I miss our life together! I have to get over it. I have not called her or anything. I know this will take some time but I wish it would hurry!
We were best friends but now she just switches gears and all the sudden has new friends and a new life while I am here struggling to pay the bills and perplexed stll in shock that 2 months ago almost she just walked.
I don't get this. Why are so many people talking about M their best friend? I saw a wedding ceremony where the man said, "Today I take you for my best friend forever". What???
My guess is that she looks for a man who is not her BFF. It's good to be friends if you're M, but I think it is more important to have that chemistry of sexual attraction! It seems to win out over friendship.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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OK, I will play, and what do you do if your "best friend" is trying to take advantage of you or play you?
I think it all comes down to good boundaries perhaps.
Knowing where you end and somebody else begins, protecting yourself is important, and if all it takes are some tears and tantrums to control you, well... how do you fix that? After all, there is more to love than attatchment and being somebody's servant, eh?
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Your right Sandi. I did let things get to where we were friends first and lovers second. We did everything together except play golf. But we shopped, we traveled, but I should have kept things jumping at home. We got stagnent.
It's good to be friends if you're M, but I think it is more important to have that chemistry of sexual attraction! It seems to win out over friendship.
Very accurate. Maybe someone should add it to the quotes found on DB thread. And we too had that disease...
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
