Quote: She is actually diagnosed as schizo affective so she has both of them (schizoprenia and bipolar) but btu they are udner control with her medication which she is trying to get off under the supervision of her doctor.
If she has this diagnosis, WHY would her doctor be weaning her OFF her medications? I smell a rat. Have you spoken with her doctor? See, here's what often happens with bipolars - the medications control the manic phases, but leave them feeling a little "flat". In the beginning of manic phases, bipolars feel GOOD - energetic, powerful, like they can accomplish anything - kind of like a cocaine or speed high. They miss that feeling, so they quit taking their meds. Then they become REALLY manic, their judgment goes out the window, start spending irrationally and engaging in other risky or irrational behaviors. At the extremes of mania they can even become psychotic and delusional (which may be how she got the schizoaffective label) - I know one guy with bipolar disease who was misdiagnosed and treated as schizophrenic for years - he had full-blown delusions about aliens in UFOs etc. - finally got accurately diagnosed and treated as bipolar and is now a functioning member of society.
I guess what I'm trying to say is this - you keep wanting to interact with her as if she is sane. Right now, she IS NOT. She does not have the capacity to rationally handle money, so there's no point to getting angry with her about it. Arrange for her basic needs to be met in some other way, talk to her psychiatrist about what is happening.
The good news about bipolar disorder is that it can be managed - and you did get to see some of the "sane" woman you married recently. Be patient but please be realistic.
farfromhome, one of the biggest probs here is you do too much for her, and she has no clue as to how to respect you for it. I think you know by now that giving her everything she wants won't work and will break you financially and emotionally. Why don't you look out for yourself for a change and realize that money isn't the magic wand for saving your R. You need to try and figure out why you keep doing this, when it has failed time and time again...really, not to disrespect you, but deep down, we have all had to do that with ourselves when we keep putting up with cr*p and giving too much. She is going to have to save herself I am afraid...don't be pulled down anymore than you already have. People that live in the material world are in constant need on instant gratification, over and over again. They drive people away if they are not honest with themselves and make a huge effort to join the real world. She fully knows that nobody else is going to help her...you have to respect yourself before she will.
