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Oops! I tend to stay off the internet weekends, so happy belated birthday!! I think. I can't tell with the time difference anyways LOL.

((((Jula))))

Thanks for all the birthday wishes. I worked during the day but went out for a lovely meal in the evening. I've posted some pics in the alt.

I'm just missing a bit of security, which is natural I guess when I'm so far from home.

My best friend is coming out to Australia to visit me for two weeks in August which is very exciting!!!

Yeah, the grass is always greener lol.

Sounds like you have some great things to look forward to!

Hi All,

Well, I haven't posted for a while. I've been staying with Essie and working mainly trying to save a bit of money. I've had such a great time here. I've done a couple of day trips here and there but not much else. Everyone at work is really nice and it is great to do something so different to back home. Essie is awesome and has been so kind and we have had a really good time together.

I only have another 10 days here and then my best friend flies out here and we will have 10 days together. I cannot wait to see her as I will have been away 5 months at that point. It has gone so fast!

I'm still not divorced yet. I don't know what is going on, I'm going to ring my solicitor later today and find out. I got an email from h 10 days after my birthday saying he had sent my happy birthday text to my Thai phone and had only just realised. That was sweet of him and I sent him a brief email back just saying 'cheers' but to be honest, I have really made up my mind that I am stepping right, right back. His birthday passed in July and I decided not to acknowledge it. I need to detach myself compleatly now. My life is so different now and my old married one seems so distant that the divorce isn't really affecting me because I don't even feel married. I don't know if that makes sense. I just know that for me now, I can't carry on with the friendship thing. I will be friend-ly, but no active friendship on my part.

So my plans are to go to Darwin and see if I can pick up any work there. I think funds will be low by then so keep your fingers crossed for me

Wow, ok so it turns out I was divorced on the 7th July but no one told me! I feel a little bit shocked as I wasn't expecting that but ok.

So I've been divorced nearly a month and the world didn't end. Got to be good right?

So glad that you are having fun on your adventure. As far as your divorce, mine was sort of the same way. I didn't realize it was final until I received my first support check. I cried for maybe all of 10 minutes and got on with it.

All that tension and stress. Dreading everyday because it brought me one step closer to being divorced. Thank goodness those days are over as that is no way to live.

kat

It sounds like you are living a marvelous, adventurous life Julia! So fitting for you. I thoroughly enjoy hearing every bit of it too!

I can understand how it must seem like being M'd is some distant memory of another life. You have created a new life, on a new continent, surrounded by new poeple! Great way to detatch - not surrounded by constant reminders of the previous life. Brilliant!

Keep us posted on the exciting adventures before you. Darwin? Really? I would have thought it would be easier to find work in Sydney or Mebourne. Heck! Chuck it all and head to Perth!!!! What made you decide on Darwin?

You are creating such a vibrant new life, I can definitely see why you don't feel M anymore.

I bet XH is a bit surprised. They always act like we are so predictable and boring and expect us to pine away for them. I think it shocks them when we thrive and grow during and after the D. LOL

Glad you and Essie are having such a grand time!

Have fun in the rest of your travels!!!

Thanks guys, yes it felt weird last night and this morning and still feels a bit weird to *know* I'm divorced but I ha.ven't cried and I don't feel a bit like doing so.

I'm going to all those places Mishka, a coule of months in Darwin, down to Melbourne for Christmas and then finish off in Perth before next May. It'll be great I think, I just need to keep finding work along the way... I was thinking that I'd go home next May for the summer, save some money and then go back and finish my SE Asia trip in Winter 2011. I don't know though, life seems to throw me curveballs so I will just go with the flow, but that is my vague plan.

Hey Julia, Just catching up to see what you are up to. When are you headed to Darwin?