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I wouldn't worry but I'd be careful. Anytime you are vulnerable and you're dealing with someone else who is in a R (and you are attracted to them), regardless of whether it is a new or well established R, there is the likelihood of problems arising which you do not need at this point in your journey, you've got enough on your plate! Go to the Ball, have fun, say goodnight and "it was fun",then don't ask again.
Btw, #2 would have said "I can't but another time would be nice" so I'd move on. You took a shot and good for you!

Wii, I hear what you are saying. I am going to treat it like a couple of trips I took to Chicago. I have a friend there who is gorgeous but never married because she's attracted to band guys. She said "they are just not marriage material."

Anyway, I just went to be in Chicago and she's a lot of fun and both trips were awesome. In fact, I should send her a note and see if there's a November weekend I can head in.

I have zero expectations for Friday other than to have fun and be out.

Side thing, I sent the note to Cinderella No. 2 this morning and got this response back right away.

"It is a pain in the @$$ when it comes to my own social life, but there are certain issues that are easier because I am the only decision maker...I could go on for days about the pros & cons, but I'll spare you the tangent. Maybe we can do lunch, it's much easier for me to get out of the office than the home:)"

I think I'll take her up on it some time next month. I'm actually writing some stories about nonprofits, which is something she's involved in, so there will be things to talk about just with that.

Agreed, C2 sounds like she's overwhelmed and unsure. I'd go with Kerry's reply too or in order to not be too brief something like "hey C2, thanks for the reply. No worries, I completely understand and I hope things ease up soon. Maybe some other time! have a good day! :)"

Re: C1- I'm the other guy with the pitch fork instead of the wings. Go have a friggn' good time. You don't have to go out with her again. For this one time just truly think of her as your friend/wing-man.

^ Ya. That first response is good.

If you have decided to go with Church35, just go, have fun, no pressure. Are you wearing green?

I would just take that as she have no desire to go out anywhere and she is jam-packed busy. I wouldn't ask her out again. You guys aren't at teh same place, it seems.

But I read somewhere else on here where she said she has no social life but lunch is better for her ---if that is the case, you could ask her to lunch sometime. Just say "Wanna grab lunch on X-day?" in about 2-3 weeks.

If it was only the above thing you posted--don'to ask her out again.

I looked at pix from last year's event. I saw a few of the ladies wearing green, but none of the guys. I have one green tie but it doesn't go with my best shirt.

I'm just glad this has sorted itself out and I can't concentrate on finishing the mountain of work that needs to get done between today and Friday night.

Oh, I get the keys to the new house tomorrow.

All right, well go with what does look good on you! And if that tie matches nothing, don't wear it!

Hooray for new keys!

Well, one part of the mountain is taken care of. I've finished crunching the state school testing data for schools in my area. This is an annual headache.

YEAH! One mountain down.....

Interesting end to the night last night. D11 did her first Wednesday night church service. It's not really a service. It's a get together for 6th, 7th and 8th grade kids from the church.

It looks like fun, but she didn't like her group and will switch next week.

Anyway, there was a stray cat outside when we got home. My neighbors told me about it. It's a very sweet cat and it hangs around the apartments looking for food.

D11 was soo upset we couldn't keep it. She was crying and didn't want to leave it outside. I said the cat could sleep inside and I'd take it to the "no-kill" shelter in the morning.

We brought the cat in and it did not want to be inside. It whined and whined until we let it out.

So once that drama died down, I told the girls this was their last night in the apartment. Thursday I get the keys to the house and start moving stuff.

For our good night prayer, D8 wanted to pray that whoever gets the apartment next loves it as much as she did. D11 wanted to pray for the cat. She doesn't want to remember the apartment. It has too many bad memories. D11 is still taking this awfully hard.

I have really buried myself the next couple of days in terms of getting work done and various events. It's going to be a long day.

More good news. That running race company has another event where we are needed. It's on Nov. 5-6 -- a Friday-Saturday -- and I still have vacation time left. So that's another $350 I can make.

That's good. November was going to be a stretch. Now I'll have that. I'll get part of my security deposit back on the apartment -- hopefully $400 or so -- December is a three-paycheck month so one of them I won't have to set aside rent and ... hopefully the D settlement.

Rollercoaster.