Mine begged for a D for 14 months, once I served him papers he refused to sign them and for the record, he lives with the OW, yet we are still married 20 months later...
There is no reason to their madness and if there is, it is all in their head.
It is all crazy...
Protect yourself, protect your son and protect your assets.
(((Hugs)))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Since I gave her freedom and her space.. why is she digging in so hard and not leaving
You know why. Space was code word for time to have secret A and freedom really meant to keep my life as I know but with an A on the side. Your burst the bubble. She didn't see it coming. Now she is reacting on emotions
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M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
I see her coming home and out right refusing to leave. What then?
Make sure you know your legal rights and responsibilities. Don't get baited into a fight, keep you phone handy with the camera in case she goes crazy you can film it for your protection. Are your finances seperated?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Whoa hormonal overdrive! She texted me and said "What are you doing and why are you doing this? You know I will not leave son I'm trying to make this siutation as calm as possible and you are scaring me"
then one a minute later "today you said our lives are destroyed. they are not detroyed. We need to keep our heads about this and have calmfor our son if not ourselves."
hmm I am not replying.
Coach, no our finances are not seperate. I am going to change that this week.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
Whoa hormonal overdrive! She texted me and said "What are you doing and why are you doing this? You know I will not leave son I'm trying to make this siutation as calm as possible and you are scaring me"
then one a minute later "today you said our lives are destroyed. they are not detroyed. We need to keep our heads about this and have calmfor our son if not ourselves."
hmm I am not replying.
Coach, no our finances are not seperate. I am going to change that this week.
Back off now, let her calm down. Next time you communicate clearly let her know your intentions are not to scare her. Be clear about what behavior you have decided isn't going to fly in your marriage - it's non-negotiable. She has a choice, make sure she knows it - ask her to repeat it to you.
Working on the parallel paths here. Suppose your wife apologises and is remorseful. Have you thought thru what you asked her to do and how it affected her?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
