Forgiveness means giving up all hope of a better past.
I like that...had not seen that before.
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
i tried for months and she NEVER has been open with what she did or nor did she answer any of the questions i needed answered for me. I remember how she treated me and the nasty things she told me over the course of her 5 or 6 month trist with another man.
i tried to get her to councling and she refused...it is just a combination of every thing over the past 7 or 8 months that i have come to realize that i personally will not ever get past. I have not been able to forgive her for what she did to our family.
i know i have a tough choice ahead of me, and i am not sure what i am going to do....but i do know that i can't continue to lie to myself and say things will be ok with her.
turning to another man for a physical relationship is not the answer and i think she regets what she did only because she was found out.
as for me...i am in a oddly calm state of mind about this...i have learned a ton about myself through out this and know that i will be okay whatever the outcome.
hope i answered any questions you all may have had....i will check back in a few to see if there are any more.
best of luck to all of you!
Gman
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
hey Gman, I agree with you. If she refused to talk about it, to drag its ugly carcass into the light and answer your questions, than she is a coward. It can not move forward until the affairs head is cut off and the body burned. I will require that of my W and if she refuses she is toast..
i tried for months and she NEVER has been open with what she did or nor did she answer any of the questions i needed answered for me.
Sorry to hear of it. Have you told her any time recently that it is of utmost importance to you that it gets talked about? That you need to in order to try to get past it?
I agree that "sweeping it under the rug" is not the way to heal. Hopefully you guys can resolve it.
Sorry to hear of it. Have you told her any time recently that it is of utmost importance to you that it gets talked about? That you need to in order to try to get past it?
I agree that "sweeping it under the rug" is not the way to heal. Hopefully you guys can resolve it.
I have tried many times over the months to explain the importance to her...gave her books (not just firends) in which they all suggest being open and answering EVERY question i have about it...don't think she even read part of that book for me.
at this point i am about me and my kids. gman
M-37 W-36 S-11, S-9, D-4 PA exposed 3/13/10 10/19/10 moving on... most up to date sit
