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Kerry makes some good points. After the date kind of rehash it in your mind and determine if the guy is worth spending a second date with.

Don't settle for less! nip it in the bud.

Tho' its said "do not judge others" I've learnt the need to judge, quickly and accurately as i've gotten older because it's also said "life is short". Learning how to do this right most of the time is part of maturity and wisdom. And I've seen large pot bellied guys with slim beauties and guys sans socks who are sane and faithful.

The late Israel "Iz" Kamakawiwo'ole was married to a slim beauty. However, one only needs listen to his music to realize the beauty of this man...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R0xoMhCT-7A

NM, you're so brave! Good for you for going out with City Guy, total UGH to his early-onset validation needs and quasi-unavailability, plus the extra pounds!

I'm excited to hear more about the possibility of you meeting up with Country Boy! Mrs. A *LOVES* a good country boy!

Sincerely,
Mrs. A

Hi all,thanks for some really good points for me to consider.

lol, fb2! I am sure there are some decent men who don't wear socks! I was just disappointed to learn all that about Einstein when I went the museum exhibit so I had to share. As for the pot bellied men with slim beauties, guess the slim beauties were comfortable with that! I am not a slim beauty but I am honestly not attracted to men who are hefty. A little beer gut or love handles is not a big deal. LYING with your photos is deceptive and not cool! He was using pics from a year old. He had gained 50 pounds since those pics.

I don't want to lead him on because that sucks! We all want someone to be just as interested in us as we are in them.

kerry- you are so right about rehashing things in a couple of days. Friends is better before intimacy when pursuing something more serious IMO. (i don't regret my fling!) The past relationship came up...when he asked "what happened? were you separated? how long since you have been together? When did he leave?" i.e. 20 questions. I didn't go into great detail.

Mystik and Violin-- yep. Nipping it in the bud. Tomorrow.

But I am thinking of sending him a message saying that I went out with someone else that I feel more of a connection with and want to pursue that at this time. Sounds ok, right?

How do I answer the question, in the middle of dinner, if a guy asks me "how do you feel the date is going so far? So do you like me?" and those kinds of questions? Sheesh...

Now This is actually Orenco, not City Guy. City guy has been emailing me. He is a few extra pounds and admits it up front. I have seen a photo and he still looks attractive to me..he is big on authenticity so maybe his photo is current? OUr email correspondence is interesting so far...meaning I feel comfortable talking to him and motivated to come up with something clever--mentally stimulated!


who knows when/if I will meet him though. At least he emailed me back again today!

I dont like it either when someone I first meet asks me questions about my marriage.

Your response to Orenco should be honest..."I think you are a great person with lots to offer, but we did not make a connection. I wish you all the best in the future".

Now I gotta ponder whether to send an email to the lady who suggested we meet Thursday evening but has not gotten back to my last email response that said sure.

I like Kerry's response, sounds like something a woman would say!

Oh NM!

I am living vicariously thru you! "Newmama's Dating Adventures"!
I like a guy with a "few" extra pounds, more to hug!...I will never date a guy that weighs less than I do!!!!
Can't wait to read the next chapter!

Thanks all-Orenco texted me a ":)" at 4 something. I was totally swamped at work and felt annoyed. I don't think I would have felt annoyed if I was crazy about him!

So just a couple of minutes ago, I did the following

1)Country Guy emailed me and said "sorry about Tuesday. It was too hectic! Want to grab a drink on Saturday?"

to which I replied "sorry I haven't gotten back to you! It has been crazy! But I would like to meet with you. How does 7 on Sat sound?"

2) I sent a quick email to City Guy to ask a q in response to hi last email and said "I am writing you more later! stay tuned!"
(He has sent me those kinds of emails before)
fyi--he didn't respond to my email about my alone time-- he said that he really appreciates it when someone "gets" that he needs "me time" especially being a single parent. He mentioned starting a work out regime as well.

3)I emailed Orenco and said something like I planned- met someone I had been emailing and felt a strong connection to him; I didn't feel that level of connection with you. Take care...
(don't remember the exact words)

ok well I am going to receive my son, put him to bed and I will be back to read others' boards.

Kerry-- what did you say to that woman? I like how country boy emailed me to see if I was interested still and confidently asked me out again. I really was going to email him again but haven't had the time. Maybe your match woman is swamped, too!