and one last things, we got home from vacation, the day before she left, and we had a great time, we had a family picture done there the night before we left, at her request.
I question why she hasn't filed yet, a good thing I guess.
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M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
Not weird, normal. We are only human, it's not in our nature to constantly strive for something withou having moments of doubt about it. KEM has some good advice for you, though I know how hard it is to follow.
I've been trying to follow the advice given, and I truely appreciate all of it. I was in such a dark place in my mind, and very frustrated I needed others opinions. One thing, I don't have a great support system, so I rely on these boards and praying.
I hate to see anyones marriage go down, I honestly believe almost anything can be saved. I have given the space, I just never thought she would go to this extreme.
I don't want to see my family fail. That's what it comes down to.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
Not weird, normal. We are only human, it's not in our nature to constantly strive for something withou having moments of doubt about it. KEM has some good advice for you, though I know how hard it is to follow.
I've been trying to follow the advice given, and I truely appreciate all of it. I was in such a dark place in my mind, and very frustrated I needed others opinions. One thing, I don't have a great support system, so I rely on these boards and praying.
I hate to see anyones marriage go down, I honestly believe almost anything can be saved. I have given the space, I just never thought she would go to this extreme.
I don't want to see my family fail. That's what it comes down to.
Prayer is a helluva support system. If it weren't for my renewed faith, I never would have made it this far.
you know what the part is that makes me think I'm losing my mind?
I have these dreams, I hear the youngest crying, the oldest is trying to wake me up, my wife is next to me.....I have to sit up because they seem real.
I never remembered dreams until this fiasco....
Another part of me being weird.....but typing this out makes me feel better....:)
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
Well, I asked the oldest boy this morning if he wanted to go to the Pumpkin patch this Saturday, I could hear him ask his Mom, she OK'd it, but wants to know exact times so she could make plans with her "friend".
We have been going as a family for 5 years, before the kids her and I always went because there is a small fair there also.
So my 1st family tradition that is just me and the boys while she is happy to spend the day with a "friend".
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
I want my boys to have a normal life, whenever I have them, I plan something they love to do, or a new adventure for us. Sometimes it is overwhelming, sometimes I don't know what to do(I had to have the girl in the sneaker outlet recheck the sizing of his new school sneakers because I wasn't sure).
They are great kids that I love dearly, there isn't a time that I drop them off that I don't get teary eyed watching them leave.
I miss having them wait for me when I come home from work, I miss reading to them every night, giving them a bath, watching them grow daily.
I look in their room everynight before I goto bed, I know they aren't there, but I still look anyway.
My marriage failure was 1/2 my fault, my wife left me for another man, but I feel my kids are being 100% punished. I am being punished.
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M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
My wife has gone darker now, too. No communication for several days. Getting harder with each day.
I just can't understand why she would think being a part-time mom is a good thing for our daughter. Hard to stay focused on LRT. Sometimes I wonder if I am not paying her attention while following LRT, doesn't that leave the door open for another to fill the void?
Just remember, you have to stay strong for the kids. If you break down, not in front of them. Prayer helps to keep your sanity. Also, writing here helps.
My wife has gone darker now, too. No communication for several days. Getting harder with each day.
I just can't understand why she would think being a part-time mom is a good thing for our daughter. Hard to stay focused on LRT. Sometimes I wonder if I am not paying her attention while following LRT, doesn't that leave the door open for another to fill the void?
Just remember, you have to stay strong for the kids. If you break down, not in front of them. Prayer helps to keep your sanity. Also, writing here helps.
I have wondered about that also, when they are dark also. I figure she is so involved with the other guy, she could care or less if I am alive.
It's not getting easier for me either.
I stay strong with them, but when they leave, or on my way home from work, it's another story.
Not sure why my wife thinks this is a good idea.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
