WAW came over yesterday and was mostly responsible for making Thanksgiving dinner. It felt like having an old friend over. I think WAW could feel how I felt because she made a couple of comments alluding to that.
I am comfortable with where we are now - doing family things together, talking now and then etc, but feeling free to do whatever else I want. I feel like a cat some days. Always landing on my feet.
Yesterday WAW stopped by my work to tell me the results of her most recent medical tests. The doctor's office is just a few blocks away. She has lupus and it is quite advanced. It is now at the point of attacking her liver, kidneys, pancreas. This is just the latest in an ongoing list of medical problems.
I of course, feel sorry for her, but at the same time feel something I don't know I can admit anywhere other than here or to my counselor. Why do I want to spend my life with someone who is always ill and walked out on me and our kids, when my most recent experiences have shown me that there are plenty of attractive, healthy, vibrant women who would be interested in me?
"there are plenty of attractive, healthy, vibrant women who would be interested in me"
Sadly, most here will wind up like me. Divorced. That is simply a fact although I have no proof of numbers.
The good part is that most of us will realize that a good man with a stready income is very much a prized comodity. And there really are lots of women out there looking for us good guys. Too many jerks and losers on the market for them to wade through. Sadly, many of our WAWs fall for the jerks when when they decide to throw away their marriages.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me
I just recent became aware of how little "competition" there is out there. There are very few men who are: attractive, intelligent, funny, articulate, well dressed & groomed, who make good money and have any kind of "game" at all.
I have been quite busy GAL lately and quite enjoying it. Except for the hangovers of course.
WAW came to the house yesterday and she and I played Scrabble like old times. I figure that's the kind of thing you do with a "friend". Then we took the kids out for a dinner to my buddy's tapas place.
While we were there WAW said she misses me, misses my ____, and cried at one point. I made no big deal out of any of it.
The only possible mistake I may have made was suggesting we cuddle on the couch when she was at my house before dinner. We cuddled for about 10 minutes until she got sick of watching football.
I dropped off S16 at work today on my way to work. As I mentioned before he is now employed by my WAW.
While I was there WAW commented a couple of times that I looked good and "sexy". She also asked me to move my jacket, so she could see my butt. Then later she commented "you looked good today" during on FB scrabble game.
No big deal, but more of the expected reaction from her.
sounds good bro, keep on doing what you're doing, - no more cuddling bro, that was a bit of backward slide, you can't say you don't want to do anything more with her and then cuddle with her on the couch, it's not congruent, other than that, good stuff, keep on doing what you're doing.
Agreed. The cuddling probably wasn't the best thing. I have not told her I want nothing do with her, but my actions (usually) have shown that I am only cool with family and/or friend stuff.
I forgot to mention this before - when we were out for dinner with the kids, WAW told us something her psychic told her. He said that she and I would get in a big argument during XMAS vacation, but that I would finally "hear her". Since this guy has been spot on in the past, I'm sure this actually means something to her. I made no big deal out of the comment when she said it.
WAW and I continue to be "friends" as I also get to enjoy every aspect of the single life. I could do this forever.
I'm sure some of you will disagree with this...but...
Our 18th anniversary is coming up Nov 7 and our one year anniversary of separation is Dec 1st. I told WAW the other day that I would like to recognize the fact that the past year has been the most meaningful one of my life. I am proud that one year later we are friendly, being great co-parents, financially stable and I am more comfortable with myself than ever. Very few people could say that after the first year of separation.
So...I asked her to have dinner with me at an extraordinary restaurant to celebrate an extraordinary year. We are going to the only 5 diamond dining establishment in our area on Nov 8. I'm going to wear the $500 suit I just bought and spend $400 on dinner and enjoy the fact that I can still do such things with my WAW as we recognize our triumphs in the past year and continue to enjoy my big slice of cake.
