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Re: My Situation - any thoughts or ideas pookie69 #2086761 10/08/10 06:07 PM
Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 391 Cumming, GA X XYZ OP Member
OP XYZ Member X Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 391 Cumming, GA	What is the corelation between thoughts and feelings? If I can't have both on my side, which do I want? Do thoughts lead to feelings or do feelings lead to thoughts? M: 39 W: 37 Married: 9 D5; S3 "It's Over" 09/26/10 11 Day Sep 10/10 Piecing Starts 11/4/10 Piecing Fails 4/11 I move out 5/11 Hire Lawyer 6/11 - Stall 6/22/11 Piecing #2 - 6/22/11 Home 10/11

Re: My Situation - any thoughts or ideas pinhead #2086859 10/08/10 08:15 PM
Joined: Sep 1999 Posts: 3,511 Jacksonville florida Atossup Member
Atossup Member Joined: Sep 1999 Posts: 3,511 Jacksonville florida	be careful chuck and keep your eyes open but don't snoop. They leave quick when they think they have support..

Re: My Situation - any thoughts or ideas pookie69 #2087127 10/09/10 05:15 PM
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OP XYZ Member X Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 391 Cumming, GA	What's the corelation between thoughts and feelings? If I can't have both on my side, which do I want? Do feelings lead to thoughts or do thoughts lead to feelings? M: 39 W: 37 Married: 9 D5; S3 "It's Over" 09/26/10 11 Day Sep 10/10 Piecing Starts 11/4/10 Piecing Fails 4/11 I move out 5/11 Hire Lawyer 6/11 - Stall 6/22/11 Piecing #2 - 6/22/11 Home 10/11

Re: My Situation - any thoughts or ideas Atossup #2087148 10/09/10 06:40 PM
Joined: Feb 2001 Posts: 10,805 sgctxok Member
sgctxok Member Joined: Feb 2001 Posts: 10,805	It's best not to ASSume there is an affair and go snooping. The BEST thing is to bring more love into your relationship. She hates your business. What does she hate about your business? What else does she hate/not like? What does she like/love? What did she used to like/love? Don't focus on externals (things outside your relationship). Focus on internals. Things you can do more of, things you can do less of. sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001

Re: My Situation - any thoughts or ideas sgctxok #2087173 10/09/10 09:14 PM
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OP XYZ Member X Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 391 Cumming, GA	What's the corelation between thoughts and feelings? If I can't have both on my side, which do I want? Do feelings lead to thoughts or do thoughts lead to feelings? Please Help! M: 39 W: 37 Married: 9 D5; S3 "It's Over" 09/26/10 11 Day Sep 10/10 Piecing Starts 11/4/10 Piecing Fails 4/11 I move out 5/11 Hire Lawyer 6/11 - Stall 6/22/11 Piecing #2 - 6/22/11 Home 10/11

Re: My Situation - any thoughts or ideas XYZ #2087715 10/11/10 02:47 PM
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OP XYZ Member X Joined: Oct 2010 Posts: 391 Cumming, GA	Originally Posted By: ChuckM What's the corelation between thoughts and feelings? If I can't have both on my side, which do I want? Do feelings lead to thoughts or do thoughts lead to feelings? Please Help! Anybody? Anybody? M: 39 W: 37 Married: 9 D5; S3 "It's Over" 09/26/10 11 Day Sep 10/10 Piecing Starts 11/4/10 Piecing Fails 4/11 I move out 5/11 Hire Lawyer 6/11 - Stall 6/22/11 Piecing #2 - 6/22/11 Home 10/11

Re: My Situation - any thoughts or ideas XYZ #2087844 10/11/10 05:59 PM
Joined: Jul 2010 Posts: 1,492 P pookie69 Member
pookie69 Member P Joined: Jul 2010 Posts: 1,492	Originally Posted By: ChuckM Originally Posted By: ChuckM What's the corelation between thoughts and feelings? If I can't have both on my side, which do I want? Do feelings lead to thoughts or do thoughts lead to feelings? Please Help! Anybody? Anybody? I think someone here before recommended this. Thoughts & Feelings: Taking Control of Your Moods and Your Life: A Workbook of Cognitive Behavioral Techniques by Matthew McKay Enjoy the Silence

Re: My Situation - any thoughts or ideas pookie69 #2087860 10/11/10 06:19 PM
Joined: Aug 2010 Posts: 299 Texas 4 40andsadintexas Member
40andsadintexas Member 4 Joined: Aug 2010 Posts: 299 Texas	Sorry but you can not control either one of them you are the only thing in life that you actually control. You have to do this for you if she looks back great then the real work starts if she don't you will be in a better place to start a new life without her. There are no guaranties in this life and sadly many of us will end our marriages my court date is this Thursday I was not successful and I'm ok with that. You really need to find out if there is om. Db will not work with active affair. Last edited by 40andsadintexas; 10/11/10 06:21 PM. M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct

Re: My Situation - any thoughts or ideas XYZ #2087866 10/11/10 06:31 PM
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Coach Member C Joined: Jul 2008 Posts: 5,299	Quote: What's the corelation between thoughts and feelings? If I can't have both on my side, which do I want? Do feelings lead to thoughts or do thoughts lead to feelings? thoughts proceed emotions and emotion proceeds action. It's how actors make themselves cry. you are in control of your thoughts, when you have a negative thought then dispute it with yourself, be brutally honest. M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.

Re: My Situation - any thoughts or ideas Coach #2087872 10/11/10 06:35 PM
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DangerDave Member D Joined: May 2010 Posts: 115	^^ That's the truth and it can be hard to be frank with yourself - but you have to or you lose who you are - be true to yourself first. DD Me 49 H 46 M 23yrs T 25 yrs Bomb Drop 4/2010 S22/D19/D15/S13 Same roof, different beds "Honestly I can say this trip into my own private hell is a journey that I know now I had to take."

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