Dated W this weekend. Corn Maze, couple of restaurants, caught a movie Monday night.
Things are going well.
Not a lot to report on the R-front. Work is getting busier. Life is good, so what can I say? It has been cold (in the 40s) here the last couple of days, so I bought some new jackets.
Still walking the dogs daily. I might start walking them in late afternoon now too since it has cooled off a bit.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 10/05/1011:05 PM.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
W has gone from not planning things (in our past life together) to planning the rest of the year. I now apparently have plans through the rest of the year. I used to complain about her not working with me on plans, so this isn't a complaint...; it's an adjustment moment.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
LOL. Some of the ideas were mine, but I guess I just got used to not planning for any kind of future together, so it's an odd adjustment
Sadly, I find myself at a juncture where it might be helpful to ask a few questions from people who have gone through this stage... right after The Great Purge.
I'm thinking there's nobody here to discuss this stuff with anymore.
Maybe it's time for me to move on from this place.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
The dog has finally caught the squirrel and wonders "what do I do now?"
Have a plan.
What do you want your new marriage to be? Make it sensous - How will it feel, look, smell, taste sound and smell?
What will it take to get there (from both of you)?
What is on her list?
What needs to be said - crucial conversations?
Stay focused on the process not the outcome.
Be very aware. Triggers, bad habits, best practices to use, etc
Now that the attraction is back the focus is now on intimacy and both of you being all in.
You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
That is a stage that those that have been purged never seemed to reach. It is quite different and one learns a new set of skills.
It may not seem so 'active' a forum, but those there know what the next moves are like. In fact, sometimes it gets to a point where it is hard to give advice to those in the earlier stages because one has advanced too far in one's own R. I think it is sometimes why there appears to be a dirth of success stories on the boards - a lot of posters who salvage their M's leave and actually 'live'- what a thought eh?
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
