I agree with Michelle. I have also seen much damage done when a BS exposes an affair and blabs everything to the WS's family.. More often than not, the WS's family STILL takes the side of the WS, so I have rarely if ever seen it do much good for reconciliation.
The times I have seen exposure work the best for reconciliation is when the BS exposes it to the wife or husband of the WS's affair partner, NOT the WS's own family.....
There is nothing wrong in what Michelle said. If you go back and read it she only was giving wise counsel to BE CAREFUL with things like this. She is correct. It CAN backfire.
I figure that if you cannot DB a DB site, i.e. don't like what happened and just cut and run...you didn't really learn how to DB, just saying.
from Puppy via the alt this morning:
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well, it looks like I've been BANNED from the DB forum. They even locked out my IP address. They also took my "Puppy Has Left the Building" thread, where I said good-bye and said that the reason I was leaving was because they were now CENSORING what we are able to post there
Puppy didn't cut and run.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
There is nothing wrong in what Michelle said. If you go back and read it she only was giving wise counsel to BE CAREFUL with things like this. She is correct. It CAN backfire.
It surely can. Especially when counter-exposure is run by the spouse having the affair.
Keeping completely silent and not trying to arrange an intervention at all can backfire too... and sometimes 2-3 years down the line after you have reconciled because... well, they got away with it once with everybody but you, didn't they? Secrets can be harmful too.
There's the rub.
Moaning all of the details to your own support network (family) is more likely to backfire and be permanent, IMO. They are more likely to work against you during attempts to reconcile.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
