I am now a test dummy. I have not posted much lately but now I am beginning to think that the testing is purposely orchestrated and I need to figure out what to make of it.
For many days in a row W has been getting to my nerves, but not in a way she used to.
We met for a dinner last night because she was late coming back from out of state meeting.
She was all bubbly about her meeting and what took place. We ordered a bunch of different stuff to share. Suddenly she started mothering me. "Why don't you eat your vegetables?", "Why are you not taking some of that?", "Use your spoon.", What's wrong with these noodles, why are you taking the other ones? They're not for that dish."
I kept calm and just said that I like it that way and to me the mixture of flavor is just right, that's the nice thing about sharing like this.
It was time to pay the bill. When I thought I could do no more wrong she said, "Why are you waving the bartender down this way? Why don't you put down the check holder?"
At that point I had enough. I said "If I wanted to go out and be treated like this, I would take my mother for dinner. You are not attractive when you do that"
She looked at me, shook her head and smiled.
My car was parked right in from of the restaurant and hers was half a block away. As we walked out I started walking with her towards her car. She said "Where are you going? Your car is to the other direction."
I smiled and said, "I am walking you to your car."
She replied, "Do you think someone will come by and hurt me?"
I said "No, right now I am afraid that you may hurt someone."
She laughed and said thanks.
So this is the "testing" I am going through. What makes this different from anything else from the past is the deliberate poking. She does it with the smile and it is not vicious. She is watching how I react.
I think I'm doing okay.
Coach you predicted all of this. She is watching me all the time and when not watching she is testing.
What makes this different from anything else from the past is the deliberate poking. She does it with the smile and it is not vicious. She is watching how I react.
It's not intentional, it's hardwired. You answered great, called out the CB with some humor. It's not going to stop, stay aware. You passed the test.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I've gotten used to the idea that I'll always be tested by women. No sweat off my back.
The other night, I had cooked a beef stir fry dish with snow peas. My wife said something along the lines of "eat all your vegetables." I didn't even have to say anything, just raised an eyebrow, titled my head and smiled. She apologized right away.
Good job Pookie, stay in control of those urges to "react".
You will be tested again and again. Be strong.
Get what you want. gr8
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I've gotten used to the idea that I'll always be tested by women. No sweat off my back.
The other night, I had cooked a beef stir fry dish with snow peas. My wife said something along the lines of "eat all your vegetables." I didn't even have to say anything, just raised an eyebrow, titled my head and smiled. She apologized right away.
"here's what I think wife. I don't need another mother and you don't need another child. Those jobs are already taken. I am going to focus on being the best husband and partner I can. Just so you know I do eat my vegetables because I like being strong."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
What is it that irritates them if we don't eat our vegetables?
I think it's the same kind of thing as when men try to 'fix' our problems instead of listening to them. Men 'fix'. We 'nurture'. But at the same time as it's hardwired in (ie - 'eat your vegetables'), I think we're alot better off in the end if it is resisted, just like you did Pinhead. Because what it comes down to is that we want a man, not a little boy to have to mother!
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
