Moving day will be tough but consider it another step in the process. That's grea tyou locked down a day. I think it's a good idea you guys are drawing up a sep. agreement before she leaves.
And yes, the WAS' could certainly get some Oscar nominations
What have you planned for this weekend?
3 days sailing with some friends. Meeting up with a few other boats and going to a big function at a yacht club. Funny I think she reads my emails sometimes which amuses me rather than upsets me.
She asked for something back that we will be using this weekend and which she has no use for right now. She regards it as hers and I regard it as marital prop and we are not officially separated yet. I just told her I will give it to her on Monday and then she stormed out
She tries to pretend she doesn't care what I am up to but then always seems to know.
So my W has moved into a rental house and i am staying in the marital home. Things have been very tense over the last couple of weeks before the move as i felt she was taking more than she should and she was getting upset that I was "NOT Allowing" her to take certain stuff. Even her friends who have stayed in contact with me told her she was being unreasonable but that did not stop the anger.
The big news though is that one of her closest friends who was in fact the one that told me W was having an A just yesterday told me she was wrong. She said there is no one else involved and never was not from the physical side anyway. I believe this girl as she has known me as long as my W and has always been supportive. She is a very straight up person.
That having been said I still truly believe the M is over and over the last few months even when under the same roof we led different lives with little or no communication. i was always polite but she did not reciprocate.
My dilemma is now that in my heart i would love my M to survive but chances are really low. I don't doubt she will hook up with someone over the next while. i have just met someone i would like to ask out on a date but feel that this is putting the last nail in the marital coffin. But if i don't then I feel that i am just waiting on her to make the move and letting her call all the shots. That to me looks pathetic. i just want to get on with life and let her get on with hers.
Everyone always says GAL. Well i have a great life in all aspects except this and never stopped enjoying life over this period. It pi$$ed her off but had no impact on her actions.
i really miss all the aspects of female companionship ( Not just sex )and am fed up wondering what the impact will be on her if i start dating. She called this so why should i feel guilty but i do.
The big news though is that one of her closest friends who was in fact the one that told me W was having an A just yesterday told me she was wrong. She said there is no one else involved and never was not from the physical side anyway.
WTH??? So what was all THIS about then? :
Originally Posted By: Khudoo, on 9/01/2010
All her friends are baffled and very supportive to both me and our M. One of them told me last night what was going on. She was pretty disgusted and advised me to protect myself in any dealings with her. She also said that when W mentioned it when they were out on a girls night that the whole atmosphere changed. None of them approve and were quite vocal about it. Thats prob were some of the latest anger was coming from.
Sounds to me like her friend is now helping your wife "CYA," or, someone has an "only an EA" view of affairs.
I think what happened from what i can figure out was she had arranged to go on a "Date" with the guy and he thought they were just going out as friends and knocked her back. he is married and maybe got cold feet. Or else the reactions from her friends got to her and the moment passed.
The girl that told me is NOT doing any CYA. She is always very vocal even in front of W that she is behaving like an A$$. Dont even know why the W still talks to her but they are very close.
Am i still in love with her ? That is a difficult question and i dont know the answer. I was for sure and would love to have my family back together but its hard to love someone who disrespects you. So if anything i am still in love with the old her and not what i see now. Which one is the REAL one, who knows ?
