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You need to talk to a doctor about the blood, OK? Make that your priority today.

Of course you can't go completely dark - just keep contact to an absolute minimum.

You are pregnant and need to protect yourself from this distress.

Knowing about his A is very painful, but at least now you know why he is acting so coldly towards you. He has transferred his emotional energy to someone else. I know, I have been there, it is TERRIBLY painful. It rips your guts out, esp when you are carrying their child.

I PROMISE you, that when that baby is born, WH will NOT have such a hold on your emotions. The problem at the moment is that you are thinking all the time about him. I have been there. It is hard to break the mental cycle. But you must.You must try. The best way is to live as much as possible in the HERE and NOW.
Close your eyes. Picture the little baby growing inside you. Think about meeting this baby. Take long, deep breaths. Live in the PRESENT, stop thinking about what a complete and utter a$$ your husband is right now. If you keep thinking about him , you give him ALL the power.

You are a pregnant woman. You are Queen, right now. I will you would believe that your WH does not deserve you AT ALL right now.

OW has only "won" if you keep the negative cycle of thinking up.
Try to look at it this way: OW has got a man who thought it was a GOOD IDEA to leave his pregnant wife!!! What KIND OF MAN is that? Not one you want! She can have him; your second-hand-goods! You should be thinking this way for the moment. A bit more anger directed at him would be good. Further down the track you'll not even care about him.

Pls order in that book I mentioned.. it will really help you understand your thought processes right now.

Thank you for all the inputs here Piano... I keep checking in and you are offering a lot of great advice

No worries Allen. The benefit of hindsight.... (sigh).