Interesting turn: it is ows. It is not his. Her boyfriend is there when he stays over. He sleeps on the couch. As far as her guy says there is nothing going on between H and her. WTF. Can I even believe this? I just don't know what to think anymore.
And what, exactly, does her guy BASE this opinion on? Her word? Good intel? Naivete? Other?
When H sleeps at her house he is on the couch. Apparently her BFis with them and sleeps in he room. His basis is that he's always there I guess. He didn't tell me because the BF and the pregnancy are being kept secret at the moment as it was a new relationship and a very quick pregnancy. Because she is his best friend and he does not consider himself my husband anymore he kept her secret from me as well.
And yes I often feel like my life is a soap opera. A bad one.
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Me 30 H 29 DC 9, 7, 2 M 4 years, T 6 years ILYBINILWY Bomb: 8/8/10 He doesn't want to work, I'm slowly getting there too Physically separating end of September
He figures he told me when he said he was done. I don't think what he did was right and i don't excuse it. It was just interesting. At this point tere is so much else that is wrong with us it is moot, but at least for now I'm not freaking about him fathering another child. I might have to again in the future but not this minute. Guess we will see if it looks like H at all, eh?
Me 30 H 29 DC 9, 7, 2 M 4 years, T 6 years ILYBINILWY Bomb: 8/8/10 He doesn't want to work, I'm slowly getting there too Physically separating end of September
Ps- this doesn't change anything, still moving out and all of that. But at least I'm not having an anxiety attack every couple of minutes. I don't believe all of it, but I am putting some into it not being his. Is that naive of me?
Me 30 H 29 DC 9, 7, 2 M 4 years, T 6 years ILYBINILWY Bomb: 8/8/10 He doesn't want to work, I'm slowly getting there too Physically separating end of September
When H sleeps at her house he is on the couch. Apparently her BFis with them and sleeps in he room. His basis is that he's always there I guess. He didn't tell me because the BF and the pregnancy are being kept secret at the moment as it was a new relationship and a very quick pregnancy. Because she is his best friend and he does not consider himself my husband anymore he kept her secret from me as well.
Ps- this doesn't change anything, still moving out and all of that. But at least I'm not having an anxiety attack every couple of minutes. I don't believe all of it, but I am putting some into it not being his. Is that naive of me?
I don't think it matters to be honest.. Your husband had a marriage with problems in it, as most do... He was at a crossroads and had a choice
a. Work on the problem b. Escape
He chose b)
That's all you need to know...
HOW he chose to escape matters very little... The extent of his escape? I suppose one could weigh his character based on how much damage he's doing...
But for YOU, the point I think is moot.
It's not healthy for you OR you son to be around him right now... His ex wife should know better than to allow her sons around him too... Him, OW, and their liefstyle is just a big drama class you want to avoid at all costs...
The only reason I reccomended eBlaster is so you can be informed to better protect you and your son... I get the feeling that has at least helped out some knowing what's going on with the PC
But..
I really don't think what drama is going on in his life matters at all to you... It shouldn't... Once you see its unhealthy you get AWAY from it and get YOURSELF into a healthier life... you by association with him have no doubt things you can change for your better...
Just a few minor corrections, lol. He has no ex wife and we only have girls.
Also I never got the eblaster on his computer, he came home before I could an now it's gone. Everything I have was because of my own snoopiness.
As for the rest, I agree. No matter the motivation, he IS choosing to run rather than work on our marriage. I do need to get out, for my sanity and my kids'.
Me 30 H 29 DC 9, 7, 2 M 4 years, T 6 years ILYBINILWY Bomb: 8/8/10 He doesn't want to work, I'm slowly getting there too Physically separating end of September
