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(((((Shelby)))))
Good job! When you get down to it, it's just a day on the calendar. (I know, it can feel like a lot more than that.) Spending the time with your daughters was the perfect tonic!

well, in VA as long as the final D isn't signed and sealed, the othre person still has rights over th eproperty... what I used to do is leave whenever he'd come to see the kids the first months he didn't have a place to go.
Good for you you took him off your FB page.

Hi Shelby

Just checking in and sending (((hugs)))

Thanks everyone, I think that is what I will do the next time he comes to visit them here, I will get dressed up and go out, even if I just go by myself for a coffee.

TOday husband is at the beach with "friends", must be nice, Our Daughters would have loved to have gone, but he is too busy to see them this weekend. Whatever, it will be his lost.

Today I am going to go walk, I have been training to walk in the Susan G. Komen 3 day for the cure.

For the most part I think I am handeling all of this pretty well, but there are those times, Like i am having right now, where I want to call him and say what the hell.

I don't bother him with texts or phone calls or messages unless it is really about something, usually concerning the girls. I have not seen or spoken to him since last Wednesday, this is also the last time he has had any contact with out Daughter's.

I sent him a text yesterday about the Girls tuition to school, and he never responded, today I sent another text about School supplies I just bought and asked if he got my message from yesterday, still no response.

What is going on, I know he wants to be on his own but we still need to have some kind of communication when it comes to our Girls. I do not know how he can go almost a week without even picking up a phone to call them.

husband just called after no contact with me and the girls going on 7 days. He said he wants to come over tomorrow to see the Girls, I said well call first because we may be out, I have been wanting to do a day trip with them to the beach, when I mentioned this to him and said you never returned the beach chairs you borrowed last week, He said well sit on a towel.

I know its no biggie, and now even writing it I know how stupid it sounds, but he had to come here, an hour away from where he is living to pick up beach chairs for him and his "friends" to use,but when I ask for them back for me and his Daughters he says we should sit on a sheet or towels.

I think he should have just bought himself new beach chairs for him and his friends or he could have sat on a sheet.

Sorry, Vent over.

That happened to a few items of mine....better to just write off the chairs now and get some for yourself, and make arrangements that he not "borrow" things from your house in the future...

husband was here earlier today to mow the lawn and take the Girls out to dinner. He just looks beat, so tired. I don't know, almost felt sorry for him....almost.

I also have had a repeating dream, where he is crying to me, he says he is sorry and this was all a mistake,and he wants to come back. And I am like sorry it is too late now.
Don't know what it means, if anything at all, Just strange.

Husband just put up some pics on FB and tagged a mutual FB friend so I was able to see them too, Man he still looks so good to me, So handsome. I wish I Didn't still feel this way after all of this.

I thought I was handeling everything rather well, but the last few days have been rough. I was just out runnung around with My Daughters finishing up the back to school shopping, they are arguing most of the time, on the way home the battery light comes on in the car, We get home the arguing keeps on going. husband wont/doesnt answer any of my text most often anyways, but now,I ask about the car battery, still nothing.

Then I think of him, no responsibilities besides getting up and going to work, although I do not even know if he is doing that. Doesn't have to deal with things around the house any more, doesnt have to listen and handle the Girls when they get to arguing. He sees the Girls here in our home once a week for about 2 hours and that is it, hasnt done anything with them on a weekend in 6 weeks. I have not had any breaks, he has gone to the shore, this weekend he went to DC.

Thankfully school starts in a few days. I will get a little "me" time in between work and the time they get home from school.

Calgon take me away!!!