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@Sleeper - I don't know. I am still pouring over scripture to find out. Was either your wife or her previous husband believers during the marriage?

MMF,

Are you on the alt?

You wait in darkness
For answers that you can't see
You know what you deserve
And your wondering why your life is
Not what you thought it should be
When the knife breaks
Your heart still aches
How can you face the day
You just

Keep breathing
you'll make it
Don't give in
You're not done yet
Sometimes all that you can do is
Keep breathing and believing
Don't let go
Just hand on tighter
A little longer
When you feel like your dying
Keep breathing

Don't give up
Don't give in
No you're not done
Don't give up
Don't give in
Don't let go

When every moment
Is almost more than you can take
You've got to know some
Tomorrow will bring you a breakthrough
Is the reason why
You got to get through the today
When the knife's gone
You will be strong

Keep breathing
you'll make it
Don't give in
You're not done yet
Sometimes all that you can do is
Keep breathing and believing
Don't let go
Just hand on tighter
A little longer

With every breath
You're bringing hope
You're letting go of all your doubts
When nothing is easy
You got to keep going
Even when you don't know how
You don't have to know how, no

Keep breathing
you'll make it
Don't give in
You're not done yet
Sometimes all that you can do is
Keep breathing and believing
Don't let go
Just hand on tighter
A little longer

Keep breathing
you'll make it
Don't give in
You're not done yet
Sometimes all that you can do is
Keep breathing and believing
Don't let go
Just hand on tighter
A little longer

Keep breathing
Don't give up
No you're not done yet
Don't give up
Don't give in
Don't let go
No you're not done yet

Or ... wait in sunlight,
Watching butterflies, dragonflies, and bees
Dart and land on my daffodils
Doing as I please

I logged into Ticketmaster
To buy seats to see Dane Cook
I got seats right on the floor
200 bucks is all it took


Dane Cook - Burger King

I would prefer to wait in sunlight too. I appreciate what I have and not focus on what I have not.

As sad as that song sounds, it actually says to not give up, knowing that it won't always be that way.

I wish all of the kids, who have committed suicide lately, or those that contemplate suicide, would realize things will not always be so distressing.

Something more upbeat perhaps?

"I’m running back to your promises one more time, Lord that’s all I can hold on to, I gotta say this has taken me by surprise, but nothing surprises you. Before a heartache can ever touch my life, it has to go through Your hands, and even though I, I keep asking why, I keep asking why,

No matter what, I’m gonna love You, no matter what I’m gonna need You, I know that You can find a way to keep me from the pain but if not,if not, I’ll trust you, no matter what, no matter what.

When I’m stuck in this nothing-ness by myself, I’m just sitting in silence, there’s no way I can make it without Your help, I wont even try it. I know You have Your reasons for everything, so I will keep believing, whatever I might be feeling, God you are my hope, and you'll be my strength,

No matter what, I’m gonna love You, no matter what I’m gonna need You, I know that You can find a way to keep me from the pain but if not, if not, I’ll trust you, no matter what, no matter what.

Anything I don’t have You can give it to me, but it’s ok if You don’t, I’m not here for those things, the touch of Your love is enough on its own, no matter what I still love You and I’m gonna need You

No matter what I’m gonna love you, no matter what I’m gonna need you, I know that You can find a way to keep me from the pain but if not, if not, I’ll trust You, I know that You can find a way to keep me from the pain, but if not, if not, I’ll trust you, no matter what no matter what no matter no matter what"

Sleeper, I struggle with this question in my own situation and today I have an answer that I believe is from God.

John 8:1-11
Talks about adultry (same 2000 years ago as it is today), people still seeking Jesus for answers (key I find here is that people were seeking God's answer and not other human beings), and Jesus doesn't condemn...he says "Go and sin no more."

I have read that passage many times before and the thing that stood out the most to me until today was - this woman was married FIVE times. I can't imagine being married five times. I've been married twice that is enough drama for me. But today it has a different meaning...today, I get the message from God that I am not to dwell so much on what I've done wrong in the past but to go forward and sin no more.

Sleeper - thank you for asking this question. For months (probably several years) I have wondered if God wasn't allowing my 2nd marriage to end so that I would go back to my 1st husband. I don't want to go back to my 1st husband. (Another story. It wasn't a physical abusive marriage but my 2nd marriage was/is so much better that I truly don't want to go back to the past.) I have done a lot of praying and I know that I want to do what God instructs me to do. I have wrestled with God. (Usually after I wrestle with God he tells me that I won't be going where I don't want to go alone.) Through all of the months of praying about the situation I have not received "biblical" guidance. I just kept feeling reassured that I was to stand for my 2nd marriage. This crisis that I am in now was not about my 1st marriage. I am doing what He wants me to do "stand for my marriage - this marriage," feelings but no scripture...until today. Today - the passage was so clear to your question and then I realized that it applied to me.

We all view the scriptures in different ways so you need to read the scripture for yourself and come to your own conclusion. John 8:11..."go and sin no more."

I'm sure that I will get a lot of 2x4s because I'm giving my take on scripture but I'll take that risk today. Sorry for the hijack. But again Sleeper, I thank you. I searched for an answer for you and found my own.

I just asked my Pastor this week what I should pray re. my ex husband. I said I was still praying for him, but I just didn't know what I should pray for: That he seek God's will for his life? That he have wisdom and discernment to see the error of his ways? (He had an affair, left me, and after taking a break is once again seeing the ow. Along with this, add porn use/addiction and the like.)

Pastor said, "Do you want him to come back? Because if you do, then pray that he come back. And it is not wrong to also pray that he hit rock bottom and be convicted. If you were married in church before God (and we were), then your divorce is a legal matter, decided by a judge, but that is not your spiritual covenant that you made before God."

And he said that even with adultery, God's law says we are free to divorce and remarry, but we are not compelled to--we can still choose to pray for the restoration of our marriages.

The biblical rules regarding divorce and remarriage are significantly complicated when one considers the audience and meaning behind some of the scriptures. In fact, it appears that there is conflicting comments between scriptures if the origin regarding the audience and specifics for certain books are not considered.

I am avoiding this topic because of the potentially heated nature that it can cause. The importance to me is to follow scripture even when it isn't always pleasing to do so.

MMF - I respect your conviction to your beliefs. I was served D papers today. I am crushed. I do not believe in divorce and my faith/convictions have me overwhelmed with grief. The papers decree "irretrievably broken marriage" -

Need prayers....and am grateful to have this board and people who have similar beliefs.