You go, girl!! It's best to start small with changes as a way of building up your confidence and confirming for yourself that it really does make a difference.
Now, for tonight, plan stuff for yourself to fill up your time until you go to bed. Be 'too busy' for him, you know? Go Xmas shopping, do whatever, but do it for YOU, with no thoughts of including him in it. Not because you want to be 'cruel' to him, but because this is YOUR life, and if he wants to share it with you, well then, he'd best get hopping, hm?
BOUNDARIES, girl, BOUNDARIES. Decide what you will and won't tolerate, and DO NOT WAIVER. Decide what you enjoy doing and what you don't enjoy doing, and DO NOT WAIVER. If you want to stay late at work again, have at it. Always be considerate and kind in telling him what you are doing, but go out there and live your life! He'll notice. Believe me.
MSM, Glad to see your small changes made a difference! Sometimes I think they just take you for granted! I know that sometimes the only way my H notices that things are so hunky dory for me is if I stop catering to him. I have observed that as long as they are happy campers and everything is going their way they (I can mean either sex here - men aren't the only ones who can be blind!)are oblivious that someone else's world is not hunky dory!!!
My H and I had another one of our talks about our ld/hd problem Saturday night. He is not basically a demonstrative person but Saturday night he made some great strides in giving me what I wanted. We spent the day together yesterday and we had a great time.
I am so glad that you had some positive interaction with your spouse. It can color the whole world in a rosy glow. I know that I can be a hopeless romantic! I hope that the rest of your week is spent with some very pleasant bribes.
Quote: Last night after a good day with my H, we were in bed together at the same time, which rarely happens now. As I was cuddling with H, I started to touch him, but not with the intention to hav sex, but just to have some nice "gropping", he is ok with it, he never complaints, and I always make sure I ask him before I do anything, just to make sure I am not making him unconfortable. Well we were talking, everyting was ok and then the following dialoge took place: Me: "Do you like how I am touching you?" Husband: "sometimes" Me: "please tell me more, when? Husband: silence Me: "But how can I know when you are liking it?" Husband: "By my reaction" This is a cheeseless tunnel, quit doing it. Guys don't like the stuff you like, blowing in ear, playing with nips, etc, Kissing, oral for both, and the big secret, we only need 1 min, the rest we do for you. Quit asking, he is more interested what you want. Asking him just puts pressure on him.
Have him listen to audio of the MARS/VENUS series. It was very enlighting to me.
