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Hope147,

I am doing my best to make it through this. It is strange the way the WAS's change so often, and there is strange behavior with my W too.

She is wearing her ring again too.

It is another day, and I have to make sure that it will be a good one too.

Thanks for keeping me positive today.

Journal (Friday, August 20, 2010):

For the past week there has not been much food in the apartment for me and kids. I have found things to feed them, but it has been pretty much of the same. It is W payday today, so I hope she will buy some more food. We desparately need quarters too. She never takes anything for lunch, so she much be buying her lunch out or someone is buying her lunch everyday.

Did you check-out a food pantry or local church for help?

Has your W given you the ordered spousal support yet? If not what is your attny doing about it?

Is your attny aware of the fact your children do not have enough food?

I know you are trying, LSG.

You won a major victory for yourself this week. The judge didn't see you as a bad father. I can imagine how pissed your W is that things didn't go her way.

Now's the time to make a stand. Yes, I know you feel a little helpless for not having a job. You have been actively looking for on and I hope will continue to do so. You were awarded some monetary support. It is your duty as a father to make sure she follows the court order so you can take care of your kids. She isn't doing it. Get you L involved, whatever you have to do.

I know you're stuck and don't take this the wrong way. This isn't the time to be nice or anything like that. Hound her about it. Make her sick of you asking about it. Do not let her get away with this. Definitely get your L involved right now.

Do not wait!

And, as always, take care of yourself and your kids. They know who is taking care of them and loving them. It sure ain't mom, and that's a shame. Love them enough for both of you.

Journaling (Friday, August 20, 2010):

Wife went early this morning and finally bought a few things to eat for the kids. It has been about week since there was much around here to eat beside curry and rice, some leftovers, bread and peanut butter, and few other things to eat her. She finally had some quarters for laundry. My son's shirt was moldy and mildewey. All the laundry smelt very bad and the kids commented on it.

I did make give the kids some milk, soup and grilled cheese sandwiches which they enjoyed very much. I had a salami sandwich. The went to Olive Garden tonight without me and I ate a little salami and some cheese because the kids took the bread to feed the ducks at the pond near the restaurant.

Wife did say she would have a check for me on Monday.

I took the kids to the doggie park for a few hours.

Wife came home at about 8:15 p.m. tonight, so the kids will eat late. I did not make them something to eat because they wanted to go to Olive Garden for dinner. They were excited about it. Daughter told me I could go too, but wife said to bring the kids down to the car. So I did not go tonight. I do not want to sit and eat nothing or make the kids feel bad about it.

I did look at the welfare website, but I am not sure about doing that if the courts will look at it bad. I cannot lose my kids, so I have to be very careful. I did not check the pantry today because wife finally bought some food. I need to check with the church for some help Sunday.

CG,

Wife says she will give it to me Monday.

Attorney was only for the hearing, but he will do an assignment of wages. He told me to not give her anything of it. I wonder if she will then want to move out. I need to know how to find out if she gave a 30 day notice without my knowledge since we are both on the lease. We have a harrassment suit with the apartment, so I have not asked them. I need to know how to find out. I don't think she has yet.

My attorney is aware. This is the reason he is going to the assignment of wages for me.

IDU,

I won a victory, but the war is still far from over for me. I need a job and residency if I expect the courts to ever give me primary parent and custody of the kids. This just stresses me out so much. I need someone to know that I need help to live, so the kids have me in their lives,and a parent that is really there for them.

dsh4320 is trying to help me, and I am so happy that he is doing his best. I even went business to business seeking employment.

I will do some more on Monday.

You are right I do not need to be nice, but I have to keep her in the apartment as long as possible until I have a job and money to support myself and the kids. I need this, and I will be okay.

She is absolutely trying to starve me and make me homeless. I am glad she is not so smart about it.

She had an accident that I just found out about. She rear ended someone on the way to work, and the other party is claiming she is at fault in the accident. I will bring it up tonight.

They may know that I take care of them, but daughter is sure wanting to spend a lot of time with W when she comes homes these day. I know she is a little girl, but W does not care about them the way a parent should. It just p!sses me off so bad.

Son wanted me to go so bad tonight. I wanted to go to dinner with them too. I love Olive Garden. Anything would be great to me.

I did not push it at all and smiled and said have a great time to them when they were leaving.

I meant it too.

W is going to give some money for son to have some bait to go fishing with. Son said at least I can go fishing with him tomorrow. He is so sweet and cares about me so much.

Journaling (Saturday, August, 21, 2010):

Woke kids up early and took them fishing with $20 W gave me. The kids go $5 each, and I bought bait, some soda and a hamburger for me.

I came home for about an hour and took kids to the doggie park. Kids had leftovers, and I just ate something when W went in the bedroom.

Good day since I was gone with the kids all day.

One more day until Monday. I am glad.