I have not spoken to her since. She sent me a text about 9pm last night. She said” I don’t want to talk about this right now, so don’t reply. Just know I’m really thinking about all of this. I know you don’t think I’m really considering the effect on everyone but I am. I just not jumping into a decision. Just know I’m thinking. I’m not saying I am coming back and I’m not saying I’m not coming back. I may still file for divorce in a month, or 3 months or 6 months, or I might not file at all. Who the _ _ _ _ knows. Please don’t ever say I’m jumping into it because I’m not.”
That was kind of odd. I didn’t feel as good about as I did when I 1st heard it. I just decided to try and still detach more and prepare myself for her to file next month. I am just going to go back like the last several days before my mistake when she hinted about 2nd thoughts, and not call and text her. To me it just sounds like “cold feet” or “guilt”.
I know no one knows what anyone is thinking but is this something to get excited about to myself or is this probably just “cold feet” or “guilt”? She doesn’t throw out anything good because she has said before she doesn’t want me to say “she is leading me on”. That came up about a month ago.
You're not listening to some of the excellent advice you've been given. You're in a state of constant panic, which is understandable, but totally counterproductive.
Take a deep breath, read the post Vulcanized wrote about what you should be doing. Whenever you feel like doing something, look at that list and see what it says. Control yourself.
I understand. I just basicly gave up two days ago. Then this came up, I got excited, then talked to her a few times yesterday. Now Im back wondering is it really over. I assume its just guilt for breking up the family and nothing will come of it. Im just going back to how it was before this came up and stay quite. She is off today and tomorrow. She has the kids. I got a ton of things to do around the home. I will have to see her tomorrow at 4pm with a meeting with the Pastor that was scheduled a week ago. We also have meet the teacher with the kids also. Im just going to try and relax and not expect anything to come of it and if something does, great. I just thought that yesterday was odd? I dont know what to make of it.
Went to meet the teacher with two of the 3 kids today and the wife. We told the teachers to be on the look out for the kids showing signs of stress from the seperation. Its was funny the K4 teacher looked at my why and us after I said I wanted to know of any signs of this affecting him as soon as possible and she looked at my wife and said "oh yes, this will affect him a lot". I could see my wife just shrink. Then we went to the 1st grade teacher and she looked at us and said I would never known by the way you guys act togther. When we walked out I said see honey we can be civil and she said I know we can, and I said no being civil in marriage not seperated and she said I know we can be civil in marriage I was talking seperated. That was about it.
