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First of all ((((hugs))) You know me by other names I can't put here, but I'm familiar with your sitch. And I have to say you've given it your all. You can now go in (relative) peace, knowing you fought for your M and - like you said- he's just not healthy to be married to at this time. I am in the same boat as you logistically- getting ready to move, as I have to be the one to move out. It's heartwrenching that we have to do that when we didn't want this to begin with, but as a friend told me, at least it's (somewhat) on our terms.



That is really sad. I am happy to give you the # to 1-800-WAAAAHHH that flowmom gave me for my H. The nerve of them complaining to us! I will never understand that. And I'm glad you're getting out of the house -- especially if he STILL can't even be honest with himself or you about what's going on.



If you find that machine, let me know. You are a strong woman and I know you'll be fine- and you're taking great care of your kids, so kudos to you. I hope you're taking care of yourself, too.

Well, hello there RHW

I have been searching for you!!!! Didn't realize you had moved in over here. I'll be checking you out now.

Well, I am all caught up. As usual your strength and class show through in your posts and attitude. Gotta say that your H is losing one hell of a woman.

I'll pop in and check on you now I know where you are. Did you say unwelcome house guest? LOL. I don't plan to post on my thread anytime soon but I still check on my peeps . I am taking some time to enjoy my life again and to give myself some mental space.

Later, RHW.

Nikita ~ drop me a line in the alt so I remember who you are! Thanks for your comments and support.

Kara... Thank you for your kind words! You are always a most welcome guest my friend! I am sad you won't be posting for awhile. I have always anxiously awaiting each next chapter.... But, I believe you are doing fabulously because that is who you are. You have been an inspiration to me.

No real update. Meeting with a L today. I am prepped, ready and wanting to move forward.

My H's behavior this past weekend created a turning point for me I think. It was just so unbelievably selfish and pathetic. I had been really grieving prior to that, and still have my sad moments. But, now... I almost feel repulsed when I look at him. Hard to imagine.... this man I loved so deeply and was so attracted to for over twenty years. And now, .... well, ugh!

So....gonna keep on rockin' and rulin'

This is the feeling that catapults you out of the grief and mourning phase. You get to this phase when you are ready to see and accept what's in front of you and not what you thought you had in front of you.

I hope that's true Romeo... I can see that is what is happening.

We had a very calm and productive conversation about finances last night. It is upsetting that NOW he is willing to talk with me about this when I have been desperate for his help for over a year and he absolutely REFUSED to even discuss it. Our financial sitch has been on my shoulders alone while he carried on his A etc. Unbelieveable.

Anyway, now he is being oh so agreeable and helpful. Whatever. Each day that passes I am losing more and more respect for him and am looking more and more forward to being free from him.

This morning I woke up and I actually felt.... relief, I guess is the best way to put it. As my eyes are being more and more opened to his true character and the degree of selfishness by which he functions, I am more and more relieved to not have to deal with that anymore.

I am starting to realize I rationalized a lot of very unacceptable behaviors because I loved him and our family so much.

Yup. Relief. That is the best word to describe what I am feeling.

The sense of relief in the midst of such a difficult time is so welcomed!

I can really relate to losing the respect aspect of all of this. I also can REALLY relate to having the financial burden during an affair.

You really are amazing, strong, lovely, kind, generous and so very dedicated. You have lots of friends here!

CG... thank you for your kind words! Your strength has been a huge inspiration to me!

I do have the most amazing friends here and in RL. I am a blessed woman. And, today I am remembering that life is truly a blessing... each day, no matter what is happening in your life. It is still a gift that I am choosing to embrace.

Today I am leaving to go camping at a lack with my sister in law!!

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm..... two women on their own with a camper and a few bottles of wine...... I have a feeling it will be a great weekend. And much needed for me.

Bring more than a FEW bottles

Have a great weekend trip!

Well it looks like I was dipping into the wine already judging from my last post! Obviously I am camping at a LAKE this weekend! LOL

Good plan CG... I knew you were a smart woman! Too bad you can't join us.