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Yes, but date night is an absolute necessity! You can prepare when you get back, right?

Either that or I'll be getting up very very very very early.

Now they're doing a test of our alert roster. *sigh* Cuz I don't have enough to do at work.

You beter get reassigned to JAG. This is so not making me like the military.

kat

Good heavens! Everything at once, huh? Gees!

Which island in Hawaii?

Tonight is date night for me also with Carrie. She is Care Bear and I am Kerry Berry (all eyes roll).

I don't know about everyone else's eyes, but mine did!! lol It is so sweet to hear your special names.

kat

Oh, I'm rolling my eyes. For sure! LMAO

Oahu. They are getting married in Honolulu.

It's gonna be my second wedding since the bomb. The first was right after while XH was still living with me. It was the last time we had sex (after the wedding, not at you perverts) until his half-a$$ed reconciliation attempt about 8 months later.

I have avoided them since. It has helped that I haven't had any super close friends get M til now.

I'm sad about the whole thing. It has me thinking a lot about my M and D. I guess I am still mourning my whole concept of M as a life-long commitment, thru better and worse. I'm just so jaded about the whole thing.

I am going to get my buddy something off their registry, but I think I am also giving them a copy of DB with a card telling them I hope they can be committed enough and compassionate enough to never need it.

Yes, weddings are tough. Glad you're still going though. I'm so jealous about Hawaii!

Hey Michelle,
I've seen you post this on a few threads, that you feel negative about M, jealous of those that make it work and cynical of those heading into it. I wanted to say well done for being so honest with yourself and us and I'm just sorry that you had such a terribly tough lesson in life thats left you feeling this way.

I wanted to marry my first love and my second serious bf wanted us to marry and I could've done and probably would have, if I had been bought up that way. I just see these as rites of passage, relationships we start in our late teens/early 20's rarely last a lifetime these days, from what I have seen of modern R's. Sure, they may have in the 40's/50's/60's but this is a very different era and we have more choices and more escape routes nowadays.

Dont beat yourself up hun, you were young really when you met and sadly, he was damaged goods and you couldnt have known. But you have learnt many valuable lessons and sure its a horribly humbling experience but you have wisdom and compassion beyond your years as a result, thats the silver lining huh.
Hugs Al xxx

Do you get to go to the wedding now or did the military totally mess that up?

kat