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Nononono! BD, our loving friends and family say STUPID things sometimes! I am not saying your aunt is stupid-not at all--but what she said was just something she wanted to say to comfort you!!! They don't know WHAT to say!

And YES the small things DO matter- you are right that you need a huge sign at some point. You can set an internal deadline for when you need it and then give up at that time if you want!

Love goes through different stages. OF COURSE your H loved you deeply at one point! Right now it is in a different stage most likely! But please don't give up right now. (((Babydoll)))


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S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
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Yeah, it's a rollercoaster ride, BD... very confusing.

Keep floating. There's a ton of hope for you guys.


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M: July 2001
Bomb/S: 1/14/10
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I agree with G! Float, float, float.

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I'm in the exact same sitch BD, but I'm 6 months pg. I think you have more hope than my current sitch. Don't give up! Just back off.

Me on the other hand, too much has happened that cannot be repaired. You still have a chance.


M:28 H:30
DD-9| DD-7| Baby- Due 11/10
T-14 | M-8

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4/09- Failed attempt at Marriage Fitness Program
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Im floating! I cant help but feel sad when people (yes then mean well, and NM, they are stupid wink )say things that are unwanted!

So I will continue to float...

2gthrButApart... sorry this is happening to you. I will read your thread to learn more about your sitch. For whatever reasons we are in here, hope or no hope, we are all here in the same boat and will support you. Newmama, Piano and Gatsby are also on here and were pregnant when they H's left too. Read up on their threads... they have great advice and are very dear!

Be Strong! Take care of yourself and that baby!!! Hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but you will get there!


Is it me or am I noticing more and more PG women who's H's left them? I think MWD has to do some research and has a new chapter to add to her next book. Interesting... and yet repulsive!

On my end... H sent a text and said he wanted to come by and i said you can come see your son at any time... he then sent a text saying I come to see you too... (really)

couple of other things, that basically confuse the hell out of me, but right now I am so tired I cant think straight!

Going to bed... Keep the faith everyone!!!

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I like what your H says in his text, BD! You're doing so well...keep it up!
2gthrButApart, so sorry you are facing all this when pregnant also. Have you posted your own sitch? I'd like to read up. (((everyone)))


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M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
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In fairness, my H left 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant, we weren't trying. Here's my current thread

I think I messed up way too much with my backslides.


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Will read up on your sitch 2. Be strong. Continue to DB right now for no one but you!

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I'm over it!

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wait...I thought I read a post last night...where did it go?


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exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
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