Quote: If only people knew how (relatively) easy it can be to set that spiral moving in an upward direction instead! (BTW - you are sounding great on your thread, dfb )
Ellie
To set the upward spiral, you have to have your mind involved. Just like sex...I can be totally not in the mood, but I never have wanted to say "no". I guess my thought has always been, what if something ever happened to him? I don't want the last thing I did to be a rejection! A little mind power and I can be in the mood very quickly...
And thanks - I appreciate you stopping by my thread. I am doing really well, actually. Though the contact is still high obviously with ex-b and myself, and he refuses to take the phone back. We just are too much a part of each others lives. If he meets someone, or if I meet someone, then I guess we'll deal with that at that point (I can't just be friends with him, and he WILL get the phone back at that point).
Anyway - I hope the poster in the other thread gets the help she needs. She is the one with the issues that need help (for valid reasons), he just is trying to show his love for her. Sex should be part of a healthy marriage.
Well, I'm in a good mood (okay, I'm almost ALWAYS in a good mood - H says I got the happy gene) - I did our quarterly estimated taxes yesterday and the bill wasn't as big as I was afraid it would be (yes, I do our own taxes - one advantage of being the daughter of two CPAs).
I'm trying to get S17 up this am - he went to a Dave Mathews concert last night, the tickets were our big Xmas present to him. Unfortunately, when I bought the tickets, I didn't realize that his calculus teacher was going to schedule their calculus semester final for the week BEFORE finals week - for yesterday and today!!! So we let him sleep in this AM and skip his first two classes so he could be rested and ready for the second half of his calc final. S says the concert was great, btw.
Trying to be more organized about using my planner to keep track of all the errands I have to do, to get on top of this busy life. I bought the Steven Covey inserts this year, hopefully all those inspiring quotes will keep me using it - I tend to get going for a while, and the forget to use it - and then of course it doesn't work well if you haven't been writing down your appointments
Last night I was helping D13 gather data for her science project - she had to redo some tests on hearing (musical pitch) so I took her to some friends houses who agreed to be subjects. One friend who hadn't seen us together for a while said we looked like sisters . Later in the car, D insisted that we did and that all her friends tell her what a young mom she has (I was 34 when I had her - I'm 47). Well, I have just as many crow's feet as any other woman my age - but I guess that shows how important attitude is, huh?
Saw Something's Gotta Give with my mom last night - the movie with Jack Nicholson and Diane Keaton - I laughed so hard I almost fell out of my seat. Definitely one to see with your girlfriends (okay, you guys out there can see it with your wives).
Did a 180 last night too. I had planned this movie date for this particular night because I thought my H was leaving yesterday for a business trip - turns out he doesn't leave until today. Kids had a lot of homework to work on last night - projects due, etc. And H got held up at work - didn't remember that I had said I was going out, and wasn't going to arrive home until just after I left. Now, in the past I would have dropped my plans with my mom in order to stay home and take care of the kids with their homework so H wouldn't have to deal with it on top of his work day; I'm pretty good at putting myself at the bottom of the priority list. But that's part of what got me into this mess in the first place, so I resisted the urge to accomodate, went out with my mom, had a great time at the movie. Yes, when I got home, everybody was stressed without me there, and I ended up having to stay up until one o'clock to get my PMSing D13 through her project and other homework she had procrastinated on - but that was okay. It's good for them to appreciate everything I do to keep this home running.
I think my WAW and I are going to see that movie together next week (she mentioned it ) - good idea?
I love your story about the 180 for you - putting yourself at the tp of YOUR priority list. It's so easy for us to forget that 180s are just that - radical changes in the same 'ole behavior - so even if we think that a certain 180 may not be a "loving" gesture on the surface, it in fact may be the most loving thing we could do by showing our mate and/or children something new that results in growth for all concerned.
okay, I'm rambling or philosophizing too much (maybe too much coffee this morning ), but hopefully you get the gist.
Got a lot to tell on my sitch (probably later this weekend) - look forward to your insights.
Long time, no see you on my thread?? Having to 'survive' H's two weeks away with possible OW number 2... easier as he isn't here, more difficult thinking he might be up to stuff with her out there...
And got separation hearing coming up on Feb 9th. Gulp.
I'd love to hear what you have to say.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
Hud - good movie for you to see with your wife. Probably not the best movie for a woman LBS to see with a male WAS - although the message is good, of the older guy realizing what a good thing Diane Keaton is - but it does dwell so lovingly on those perfect 20 - something women's bodies - could go either way. But definitely you should go see it with your wife - romantic, sexy, and with one of the funniest bedroom scenes.
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