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I didn't ask, but it is killing me. I just waiting for her to respond to my first email stating that i didn't know what was going on, and then i am going to leave it at that. i still can't believe how she is able to apparently continue on like nothing is wrong. I guess that is what she is supposed to be saying about me....

i guess she things i'm fishing now......oh well, its late on my side of the world, and tomorrow is a new day! Good night all!

Well, she responded. She said that the only one she has talked to about this is her sister. That her and her sister can talk about everything. God, I wanted tell her that she isn't married to her freaking sister! How about throw me a bone and talk to me!

She doesn't know what to do about my parents. I told her it was up to her to let them know if that is what she wanted. I'm trying to put the responsibility on her, since this is her decision. Is this the right move?

In my last email to her, I told her no, I haven't told anyone about our sitch. That I was waiting on having a good converstation with her because I too wasn't sure what was going on. I only knew about the feelings that she had. That I respected that they were her feelings, but was sorry that she felt that way. I told her that the only thing I could do was concentrate on myself since that is the only thing that I have control over at the moment. I said that I was taking a good look inside of me, trying to make some sense of this, and that is all that I could I do.

She continues sending random emails about my son, then one of a photo albulm, just like things were peachy. It rips me up inside, but I going to listen to Puppy on this one and stop answering now. I am going to wait a few days, call my son again, and see if anything comes up. It just feels like I am burying my head in the sand hoping things will go away is all....

That and the fact that I am only a month and half into my deployment has been waying on me. Like a lot of people said, she has had to have been feeling this way for a long time. I just don't see a way for her to not want to try if this was a fresh, new feeling. Why did she let me go? Was this the opportunity for her to do this the easy way? Do I just continue to wait it out until she wants to have the divorce talk with me? I was used to talking to her and my son daily. I am hesitant to do that now, because I do not want to come across as needy.

What is it she wants you to SAY to your parents, anyway? There's nothing definitive, so until there is, YOU should only involve them to the extent that YOU feel you need emotional support. And THAT, is NONE OF HER BUSINESS.

Puppy

I agree Puppy. Like I told her, I don't even know what to think at the moment, so I do not even know what to tell anyone. I have a pretty good idea, but she has not let those words leave her mouth yet.

If she wants to the big D, then let her say it. I just do not want to be taken adavantage of. I am giving her full monatary support right now, like I should. But I can not keep my mind off of possibility that she has found someone else. I do not want to let her have her cake and it to, but I also have two kids to take of. It's a hard juggling act. The last thing I want to is to make things easier for leave me. There are so many unanswered questions. I guess I just need to let things progress out and see what she wants. It's just hard. And to make things harder, I do not have a private place to make phone calls. It's hard talking about your personal life while your co-workers are in the same office.....

I'm going to send you pm, I have a couple of questions I'd like to ask you....NM, they are disabled for me for some reason....hmmm

God I am so pissed right now. I just looked at my order for my books and a simple google search leads right back to this site. What happened to it being billed as discrete! I thought the site said it would only be initials? I just put in to have my username chaged. Maybe I am getting a head of myself in thinking that my wife gives two shits about what I am doing, but this is the last place I need her falling into.....sigh.....

you mean, on the credit card bill?

Yep...right on the statement. Wouldn't take a rocket scientest to figure it out. I was a little disappointed but what can you do right? Like I said, she probably is not that interested in my doings in the first place.....

I'll only hear from her if she needs money anyways. I think I know what rock bottom feels like now. I can say that I have learned something from this. I thought if I ever found out that my wife cheated on me, I would be done for good. I do not think that I can say that any longer.....

Welcome to a new day! Nothing from the wife as far a legitimate email explaining our situation. I did a message from her on Skype asking if I changed my schedule. This is like the third time she has asked this. What does it really matter, I am 8000 miles away and you told me that you are done?

So I checked my email, and had some new info on facebook, so I checked it out. Then it slapped me right in the face, here is the wife's insight for the day....

There comes a time in life when you walk away from all the pointless drama and the people who create it. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget about the bad and focus on the good. Life is too short to be anything but happy.

The sad part it is, it makes sense. It makes me very sad to think that I am the pointless drama that is making her walk away. Now my kids will be paying the price, instead of just me.......