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Spoke with lawyer yesterday who now states I should try to get rid of anger and just be supportive and loving and see what happens. I am afraid my wife will see this as weakness. The legal fees are mounting and no further along with the process. My wife starts school in 2 weeks and there is a lot of running around. I will wait for 6 months and see what happens. I have held out the olive branch so many times and have received no sign of cease fire with my wife. Will watch and see. More fun to come I am sure. Bobby O

I was amazed yesterday when my wife agreed to a cease fire. I dont know what to do. I am not sure what to do to rekindle this relationship which has been in trouble for sometime. I know we need solution based therapy but I do not think she is willing to go there just yet. I guess I will be myself and hope she comes around. Bobby O.

Hi Bobby,

W agreed to a ceasefire?

Does she mean she will lighten up on the particulars in the D? or is she actually putting a hold on the D?

My understanding was to stop the divorce proceedings and get past the anger. Well after I contacted my lawyers that we were going to see what happens: my wife now says again she wants a divorce and is moving out. Personally, I think she is all talk. She has no job, no income, starts school next week. I actually allowed her to save face and do what she wanted. Now she has started this mess again. I will see what she does. If she does move out then that is desertion and that would be a better ground for me than constructive desertion. She is very stubborn and will learn a very hard and expensive lesson. I still can not believe this is happening after 26 years of marriage. This midlife crisis is a cross to bear for all involved. Bobby O

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