I got home last night and my wife was not at home. She did not come home until 830PM. My wife has not said a word about being served papers. She told me she washed clothes for me and put them up for me. This is something she has not done in months. This am she went into my study and started talking to me about our children and things with her. This again was something she had not done in months. I sat down and faced her and listened to what she said. It seems now she is trying to include me but I am not getting my hopes up. Will see how things play out. Bobby O
I found out earlier this week that there was an oversight in the paperwork and my wife was not served. In any case the paperwork is filed and now my wife is wondering how she is going to live and go to school. She saw her sister yesterday who told her she was foolish and was giving up a great guy and future. My wife said she knows she should have chosen counceling but that she did not feel she had feelings for me to make the marriage work. In any case she is now talking to people and perhaps she may consider counceling as it could help and if it does not then nothing lost. My wife never thought I would file and now she is in a panic. I am going to a wedding this weekend with my brother and his family. Virginia will have more time to think. Will see what happens. Bobby O
Just got back from being out of town and wife is not here. I have not spoken with her in 3 days. She will most likely be served her papers this week. She has made no effort to look for a place and really has less than 5 weeks before she starts classes.I feel so angry and alone now. This should never have happened. The 180 continues. I feel like I have lost my best friend. Bobby O
I am very depressed at present. I am so frustrated that I am heading down the ugly path of divorce. I resent my wife so much for not trying to get counceling or work on the marriage. I have known my wife for 29 years. Ive been to councelers and have done countless marital programs. It is hard to be a one man band. I feel like I am in a tail spin and can not come out of it. Bobby O
I just got off the phone with lawyers and the legal separation paperwork will be completed soon. I feel such a heavy heart that I can not put into words how I feel. My world has just come to an end. bobby o
Your not in alone. In an age of entitlement there are a bunch of peoples relationship partners who are leaving in attempts to be "free", when they were "free" all the long, just married. They'll drop you like a bad dream.
What you need to do for yourself is to read the 'robx' postings. You need to take care of your physical and mental health first and foremost. Formulate a plan for yourself without your wife in it. Part of my plan would be gaining "single appeal", and taking care of my physical health. Improve your diet, cut down or eliminate alcohol. Its not your friend, especially in a situation like this.
GET BUSY, do things you like outside the house. Have fun, do some things for yourself that you have been putting off.
Keep checking here, because I'm sure others have something to add.
Thanks for the advice. I am just taking one day at a time. I am exercising and doing healthy things. I am missing my wife and maybe she will have a change of heart before the decree is final. Will see what happens. Bobby o
I turned 55 today. My wife and daughter surpised me and wished me a happy birthday. My wife invited me out to dinner tomorrow. She really seemed happy and things were very pleasant. Not sure why but this would be the best birthday present ever. Bobby o
Last night was pleasant. My wife and daughter had a cake and gifts for me. My wife actually kissed me on the cheek and wanted me to sit next to when we saw a movie. I hope the trend continues. We will have dinner tonight. Bobby O
