As far as exposure just his wife at the time he lived in fl and when I found out W called om a 2 days after and they agreed not to have any contact as he was supposedly trying to work with his W. Mine still wanted D but during that time she erased his # from phone, gone from facebook and was very remorseful.
When we we intimate she told me that they didn't have sex cause he could get it up. After we had sex she said she had thinking todo not that this changed everything. MNy mixed emotions till I moved out in may. We were even going to mc till last month when she said she wasn't going any more.. Last time she did that she cheated with him even if he couldn't get it up.
Sorry been in D.C. Traffic!! One thought I have and maybe nothing but she was going to wait the 6 months of separation needed here in Va. till we were done and W thought they would be back togeather again as we got in a huge fight about our separation agreement.
As she said it began the day she fringed the D on Jan 7 th I said no way as far as most people new we were still togeather till we told our s in April. The only other people who know about affair r our mc and a good friend of mine at work she has helped me a lot. Talk soon thanks gotta drive.
Hey Puppy, I can’t thank you enough for all the advice and support you have given to me during today!! It means so much as I know you are super busy!! Sorry this is long post is a little longer!! As far as starting a new thread do I start from the beginning of my situation or do I just link some of my threads?
The one truth that I got from W in our last MC secession In June was for the first time in months not that I wanted to here, but she admitted she still had feelings for OM. I know it doesn’t make sense; but I felt as the first time in months since I felt us slipping in a little back in Dec of 09 that she was telling me the truth. (I know messed up).
As far as the BC pills it just doesn’t add up as when she stopped taking them in March that was the first time she had ever been off them since she was pregnant. Now it’s almost been enough time for the separation to get our D going because S is not biologically mine and in Va. With no children it’s 6 months of separation. (Like you said just be alert) I don’t mean to keep rambling, as I said wife has a lot of other issues she is dealing with as S is not biologically mine. I came into the picture when he was two and he called me dad ever since. Her ex cheated on her while she was pregnant and S ½ brother is only separated by a few months apart and ex married his Affair partner. So needless to say her family would be completely devastated if they knew what happened with us.
That is just one thing there are some more issues as well.. How do I look for clues if were separated and I know I can’t fly off the handle if I find something? What is your personal thought on my situation.. Do you think like a lot of people I know that I’m stupid to hope for anything or that give it time and just move on mainly friend some friends back home.. I know they don’t want to see me hurt maybe that’s why. I just get discouraged sometimes, Yes odds are against me, but they have been in a lot of things in my life that’s why I have hope!!
There are a few other issues only our MC knows about in our marriage and both our past. I’m no saint either I have done some things as well as in our M to case some blame, no abuse, alcohol, or anything like that. Anyway I have dealt with a lot of my issues lack of confidence, being depressed for a long time, I guess being a doormat for the most part. I‘m starting feel like I was when we first were dating strong and confident and W has told me I even carry myself different.
Through all this crap I just don’t want us to give up when everything hasn’t been tried to make us stronger and star a New M in our lives together it’s just to get her to see it somehow or someday before it’s all said and done. Again thanks for all your help you are truly a wonderful person for helping everyone out!! Talk soon Hope
Hey Puppy, Thanks for everything yesterday. Hey do you think that when I use my iphone and post she could find out? I know when I talked to my Lawyer she said we could get email/ text records if needed for Affair. This was back in Feb. before we were intimate, so as far as the affair in my state Va. it wipes it out. (It considers it as I forgave her).
The other thing is that she pays for the bill it’s under her name. Now unless she goes through the hassle to call and find out what sites I have been on I don’t think she would, but even then I don’t know? (I think it’s just lumped under the data plan, but who knows). I just don’t want her to find out about this great site.
Also if we were intimate again the whole separation process has to star over as well. This whole thing is screwed up!! Any thoughts? (Guess you have to laugh somedays)..
I don't know of any way to find out what actual SITES you've been on, other than to look at the phone itself (or to install a keylogger onto it). Best to keep it LOCKED when not in use, and then you don't have to worry about it.
Hey thanks, That's what I thought!!! Hey with her situation with her past and ex do you think she could be telling the truth that she is done with OM? I know probbly stupid as she has told me she still has feelings for him. Talk soon hope
Well as far as I know she has when we were in our house no sort of contact deleted all contacts and she did seem really remorseful.
On the other hand In one of my threads I wrote about a letter/journal of thoughts yes I found ok kind snooped around for back in June .
Maybe it was nothing like she said just thoughts and feelings, but to me it seemed as she was still in touch as we got in to a huge fight!!
I told her to have fun with OM or who ever it was needless to say she was up front with me and MC that it was nothing, but till this day I look at the copies I made and think how stupid am I it's about 90% true. After all that no more MC either lie the first time she was cheating on me. So now I can only hope for the truth but don't know? Anythoughts sorry kinda long...
As of our last argument 2.5 week about our separation agreement and other stuff!! W told me she didn't want anyone & wasn't dating anyone & got very angry when I brought OM up. This just tough with the trust issue like I said I want to believe her but have to watch may back too.. Now we talk very little sun as I saw S. Trying to avoid any talks really.
After our argument we talked on the phone for 45 min. Probbly shouldn't but thing were calmer. One thing I don't get and maybe this is just normal script, but she said " how could I want her after all she has done to me. I said forgiveness. W is also very down on self and not happy with herself. So add the D in to the mix and nothing is good. Just tring to give us more time apart.. Just wondering if you had any thoughts. Thanks hope
