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I treated mine like an opponent.

This D could have been a bit easier if there weren't OM involved. At least I could have respected my W more. I'm so worried what affect this will have on my son later on. Not sure what W is doing but this isn't the woman I married.

Karma, that's all W used to talk about in the past. I wonder if it will catch up to her?????

I'm sure it will FFH.

Hang in there. Hope the refi works out.

W just sent text that she will be staying wherever she is because she's been drinking. Not sure why she told me she would see me tonight then stay out all night.

Owell, i guess I shouldn't over think this

I dated. I would not do it. It will just distract you from getting over this. By this I mean, you will think of her the whole time and you will hurt the person you are with if they start to like you.

I've been thinking about this alot and I just don't know how I feel right now. The thought of dating scares me, I feel like I'm just leaning towards dating so that I'm distracted from all of this.

I'm amazed that my W has no remorse after coming home the next morning from her "date". I guess since she is the WAS she's moving faster then I am.

But your right "par4me" I don't want to hurt anyone just to help me get through this. I guess time will cure all of this. My friends encourage me to go on some casual dates. It will help my confidence and as long as I'm up front with the other person there are no expectations.

I just don't know what to do.. I'm sure I'll figure something out one of these days.

Can't you just go out and meet and talk to some new women without actually "dating"? Don't set-up a date for dinner or a movie or anything like that, just go out with some friends and talk to some mew women.

I know it may not be that easy, I'm sure it will be hard for me too, but it would have to help your state of mind right now.

Just a thought.

One good way to do it is in GROUPS. Mixed-company groups of people, where you can interact with other women safely.

W just called me at work and I couldn't answer because it hurts too much to talk to her now. She sent me a text and said son wants to talk to me.

I called and she answered, I said can I talk to son. She had the nerve to ask "what's the matter". I said can i please just talk to son. She said you were nice to me yesterday and we talked now you hate me?

I didn't give her the satisfaction of arguing. I can't do it anymore. Does she really think that I would just be accepting of her new OM and that she's having a physical R with him? What is wrong with her?

Sorry FFH. I don't know what these WAS are thinking. Mine is the same way. She has/had an OM, but still wants to be all nice to me. She says I am beating her down and she is all stressed-out. I told her it is a choice. I'm not going to be your friend. I don't understand how they could even think that is possible.

Hang in there. I like puppy's idea of going out in groups. That always works best for me because it is safe. You get to know some people casually and just talk to whomever. No pressure.

Hang in there man.