"I understand. That still doesn't give you the right to have an affair."
"I hear that you have marital complaints. I'll fully own my share of them. That still doesn't give you the right to cheat on me, and to lie to me and even your own family about it."
"You say that you have the right to do whatever you want. I couldn't agree me, but then I also have the right to -- and WILL -- do what I have to protect myself, and my daughter."
"You try to sound so brave. (laugh a little) It's just ironic, because you really took the cowardly way out, by deciding to have an affair and then lie to me about it."
(If attacked for exposing, specifically):
"I decided that I was no longer willing to lie to cover up your affair."
"I decided that they/he/she had the right to know the truth."
Again, CD, less is more. At this stage, you should really sound like a "broken record" to her -- four or five or six basic themes and statements. When in doubt, these two always work well:
"I'm not sure how I feel about that. I'll have to let you know."
I also think you need to be prepared with what you will say and do if she says something like "Well, that may be what YOU have decided, but that's not the way it's going to happen!" Because now that you blew up their little love tryst, the two of them have probably spent the weekend preparing what SHE is going to tell YOU, and how SHE thinks it's all going to go down
The most important clue to me was this^^
1-They've been preparing, too.
2-They did NOT have the weekend they were expecting. HA!!
Thanks again Pup.
If anything else comes to you today, my ears are wide open.
But I can handle this...and be even stronger for the NEXT toughest day...so far.
It's a beautiful day here. I think D and I will go for a drive nd relax all day. She's gonna need all the Quality Time she can get.
Do you know what time your wife will be back? I mean, do you AND your wife have a time that she's communicated that she'll be back? Cuz if so, I think you and your daughter should be GONE at that time, busily doing something, and let your wife come home to an empty house for a couple of hours.
Today is definitely pressure-filled, but let HER feel HERS. YOU sir, hold the high ground here.
If anything else comes to you today, my ears are wide open.
If I think of something important, I'll try to chime in. I've got a pretty busy day here with a lawn to mow, a pool to shock, gotta take S17 and S13 for haircuts, etc.
I do have you on my "watched users" list (which is always a VERY short list -- just two or three or four folks -- so I get e-mails every time you post. If you need to send off the bat light, please use it wisely, but I WILL come.
I think you're ready, CD!!! It's funny what some self respect and confidence in yourself will do it handling all of this. Just the feeling of having some control in the situation brings such a relief from the grief and worrying.
Wish I had some words of wisdom, but you've got enough with Puppy's advice. I will be praying for you today!!!
