I don't know. Sounds like he should be a little mad at you from that. You can not make someone involved in their childs life. I could not for a while be in childs life because of the pain of my ex. I would be no good to the child and I would have manipulated my ex with the child to gain her attention. Weak, I know. So, I can give him that for awhile if he is hurting. Hitting you or saying he is going to hit you is completely not right. You sound like you are pushing for the divorce. If you do not want it than don't pursue it you may just get it. He should be paying child support. But, I was talking about just going dark where he doesn't know that you are there for him. He has no fear that you are not going to be there if he shows up. There is nothing like not knowing what the person you love is doing when they are not in your life. If he thinks you are waiting on him to decide the fate of your relationship then he will be in no hurry. This is my problem. My wife knows that I am waiting, I think, she is no hurry. She knows I am her safty net.
Sounds like you recognized maybe what was best for your child. Currently are in in that childs life?
I don't believe he loves me so I don't think it would even phase him.
When i did not speak to him for a few weeks and had his truck he just popped up switch truck with my car. So i went to dealer to buy new one and my car again died.
so i naturally asked him what was fixed who fixed it etc, and had to hitch a ride home with two kids.
so he then askes me what were you doing there? Why were you there? when we don't speak for days/weeks/at times been months he does not call ask about kids or nothing.
oh yeah added to his i don't love you is i'm disconnecting the phone and internet.
maybe he's divorce busting me?
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
Yes, I am in the childs life now. He just came down for the weekend. I was talking about a different relationship but it still applied. My son and I now have a good relationship.
I don't think he is divorce busting you he is just be vindicitive and mean. He is trying to hurt you. I don't know what to tell you. I don't know what to do myself. I can tell you that I am sorry that you are hurting and I wish that you did not. But, action is what you need. Something, it looks like you are just in a stalemate to me, not going forward or backwards. Just not doing anything about the relationship at all except hurting. I may be wrong. But that is the perception that I got from your post.
i'm glad to hear that you in a good relationship with him.
i agree we are at a stalemate. we just keep hurting each other and our kids are in the middle. i'm mom/dad everything to them.
neither one of knows how. i could try something different - have him pick up the kids for a very VERY short while. he would have a heart attack. we both as michelle says, "we keep going down cheeseless tunnels"
so if both your and my relationships are so destructive why are we still holding on? H O P E
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
I don't know. Our heart and memories tell us one thing, head says another. Maybe it is the fear of the unknown. i would like to find someone else that i loved. But, that is going to take alot of time, years. i guess i just miss her sometimes.
the unknown is not a fear for me. it's the division of children having done this all ready with one child - never a good thing.
it' s the loneliness and feeling not like amother on holidays when your kids are on visitation, when h remarries and has more children - i can not have more. this is my 3rd marriage
it's the other woman mothering my children whom i fought to keep their lives when pregnant and instill morals and ethics. it's them feeling slighted by new woman and children as to why their mommy was not good enough.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
I was just checking in on you today making sure that you are doing ok. I do not have any good advice to tell you about. I just hope that you are having a better day. I did not for some reason that I don't know why. But best of luck to you.
