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Breal - shel - whatever the heck we call you these days...

Look girlie, I have told you before - that you should be proud of yourself. You are stronger than you think.

These emotions that you are going thru they are normal. You need to stop and look closely at them. It is what I did. It worked for me. Yeah...no more fuc*ing hiding. None. Let the real show...let all of your emotions flow. It is this flowing that will bring forth the healing.

I have seen a lot of "I now stand for me" - "I get it" - "I'm doing the work"...post these days. I personally find it interesting that people seem to be healing fast these days. Are they really? That is my question. Are they putting bandaids on? I don't know. Everyone is different. I say feel this hurt...embrace it....let it change you. Let it change you for the better. BUT please do not gloss over it. Look deep at yourself and then rip the shiznit out of the stuff you don't like.

The insecurities - loose em.
The self doubt - loose it.
The fear - check it at the fuc*in door and then kick the door down.


Deep down inside you know WHO you are. You know already. What you need is to take a long hard look. Pull back the barriers to your heart. Pull back and let the real you shine...shine for everyone to see. Then my girl...your free....your really free.

The past is just that the past. The past for BOTH you and your H. For your kids...it is the past. You have pen shelebel, you are a writer and a damn good one at that, NOW do me a favor...

Go write your future....as a writer the end of a story can change as the writer explores the plot, the story....go write your ending.

Remember this...if you don't believe in yourself...then know that I do and I know that the becon of light that is your heart will shine you to your path..

God Bless,
Eric

:P THHHppppttpphh <spit drops hitting screen>

Thank you Breal. Are there two straws in that drink?

Keep it up Mach...

Eric's gonna really give it to you.

Probably.

lol! Yep, Grit... you want the pink one or the yellow one? I drank out of both of them, so, you know, whatever.


"It doesn't matter if your glass is half full or half empty, as long as you get free refills."

Woohoo I like that!

Me too!

Eff this my friends...

Topping the day off with laundry & another margarita.

Free refills. Who is with me.


Oh wait, that is me being a smartass & hiding behind a joke. Let me try again.

Eff this.

I'm having a drink.

Who wants one?

(thats not even remotely better--can't I just be a wee bit of a smartass?)

Eric, sweetie--you may call me whatever you like...

Just as long as you follow it up with, "... 'nuther one?"

I do have an issue with hangups & insecurities. Too many years of apologizing for the things I thought were wrong with me instead of actually changing them.

Too many years of putting myself last to the point that all I really had the energy to do was apologize.

It's going to take some time. I'm afraid my ego & my psyche are as fragile as blown glass right now.

I promise I am working on it.

You guys don't expect too much from me right now, okay?

Blown glass & cotton candy--that's the definition of me right now.

weak lol.

dammit Grit. Give me back me freakin kleenex.

And my straw.

Shel honey.

This is the tough part.

This is the mirror work.

Gotta do it though.

You can't just run away.

Cause where ever you go, you'll still be there.

Here's a kleenex.

And your straw.

Sip slowly we gotta lot of work to do.

Ok?

I do have an issue with hangups & insecurities. Too many years of apologizing for the things I thought were wrong with me instead of actually changing them.

Too many years of putting myself last to the point that all I really had the energy to do was apologize.

Wow - I could have written this myself! Thanks for articulating it so well - it helps give me a starting point!

Okay...I'll go with "Real"...

Oh...and please have another one on me.



We all do honey...we all do. What and how we deal with them is ALL that matter though. For me...I've decided to share them. Share them with everyone. Part of that is an ackowledgement that they exist and by acknowledging them I can now really work on them. Also, by telling everyone they can now call bull when they see the need to. So in keeping with what I said...here are some of mine.
- Fear of failure
- My physical appeareance
- The ability to take care of myself

Call them what they are and then SLOWLY deal with them.


Yes it will...know what really cool? You get to determine how long.

FTR - I expect nothing from you. Question is really what do YOU expect of YOU? Is it realistic...only you know.


I actually define this as "healing".

Hey Grit and Mach.....when you guys are done hugging can you pass Real something and it is not a tissue.....pass her a drink and toast her...cause she is peeling....she is....well it is all in the name...she is being real!

You can do this Shel...you can.
And FTR when you think you can't....take a look at my childhood...You can do it.

God Bless,
Eric