She may or may not have sent the latest one to you by mistake. Sometimes people are more apt to open things when they've been recalled. This woman wants you to know what they are doing in a very sick way.
Try not to open any more of the emails. They tend to make you sit and think about them more than ever. You can't move forward w/this type of stuff on your mind most of the time. She wants to drive you over the edge and you don't want that.
I do think that if you remain quiet long enough, everything will be exposed....
For now, put thoughts of them aside and focus on your parents coming for a visit. Enjoy your time w/them.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I believe Snodderly is right on the money. This woman is crazy but not stupid. She has an agenda as far as you're concerned for wanting you to know what they're doing for whatever reason.
I also agree with Snodderly about not opening the emails that this woman sends if you can help it. I know that would be hard for me as I'm a curious person, but have learned I do better at detaching with the less I know about what H is doing.
I would have a folder designated for them and throw them in there just in case there's ever a need for them at some point as if in her sanity ever comes into question. Others may have a different view on whether to keep them or not.
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I do think that if you remain quiet long enough, everything will be exposed....
I agree with both of you! This woman is crazy but she is not stupid. I know what you mean about opening the emails. I'm keeping everything in a folder, one of these days I may have to use them but in the meantime I'm keeping them. I guess I should print them off incase something ever happens to my computer & I loose them, I sure wouldn't want that to happen. That could be a good project for me. I'm going to do my best not to open them & just put them in that folder, but I'm like you SA, I'm pretty curious. Sometimes it makes me feel better when I read them b/c part of me knows that she is loosing it more & more or she wouldn't have to send me anything if she was that secure. So, it hasn't bothered me that bad.
Now, today I have been pretty depressed. My parents are here & that is wonderful & it was not the emails that did it but the weather. It has been so hot this past month, today & the last couple of days have been so beautiful, not too hot or humid & that is unusual for July. Anyway, I remembered a time about 20 years ago when my ex & I were dating & it was 4th of July weekend, we went swimming, picnic, then fireworks that night & the weather was a lot like it was today. It just made me remember how happy we were & how much in love we were & I just missed him sooo bad!!! Of course, right now he is not that man, but I do miss the man he used to be.
Ok, I will be better tomorrow. I'm going to grill hamburgers & my Mom is going to make homemade ice cream, my favorite, Orange Pineapple. We are going to have a good weekend!!! I'm going to give it back to God tonight!
Enjoy your weather for now...it's going to heat up again on Sunday and through the following week.
I'm sorry that you are a little bit down, i.e., memories of happier times w/your xh. The hurt will lessen as time marches on.
I do hope that you and your parents can enjoy the holiday and the cooler temps.
As for the emails, please try not to allow them to interfere in your life. It's obvious that someone wants to ensure that you are miserable and will close the door permanently on any type of relationship w/your xh. Do not allow this person the control to do this.
Enjoy your weekend!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I was going thru the same thing yesterday as I was trying to figure out the camper and then when we got to the campground with SS and his family...it just didn't seem the same! Right now, I am ready to sell the camper and just buy a tent since H took ours...so many good memories! Wish we had the MLCer ablility to forget or re-write them so it wouldn't hurt so bad!
But, you are right, tomorrow will better and we will give it back to God tonight!
My kids are both gone today so will enjoy some peace! Forgot how tiring it is to be around little ones (the grandson's)!!!
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Sorry I haven't gotten back on this site, my parents were here & we really enjoyed being together. You are right, it got very hot but at least most of the weekend was nice.
I did really well on Saturday, Friday night I just gave it back to God, I had to. But on the 4th when all the neighborhood fireworks started that was very sad for me b/c xh & I used to buy a bunch & shoot them off, we had soooo much fun, we were both like little kids! So, that was rather sad, but that night I turned around & gave it back to God. It is hard, it is sad, I still cannot believe where we are now & especially where he is now.
The more I think about that "recall" email, I think she did it on purpose & sent it to me. I tested the "recall" on myself. The first one it did come back so she would have seen but I did it just like I did the one she sent, I tried to open, it went directly to sent, I closed outlook, opened back up, it was still in the "sent" box & I deleted it before it had time to start trying to send again & I didn't get that one back, so she may not have gotten it & still doesn't know if I'm getting her emails or not. I don't know that for sure, but it doesn't really matter, I'm not responding anyway & I'm sure that is driving her crazy!
I truly believe her day is coming, not sure when but it's coming.
Just thought I would catch everyone up. I love it when my parents visit but CW, I'm like you, I'm tired!! I don't have little ones around like you do, I'm sure you enjoyed the grandson, but it's also nice to get some quiet time.
Both of my mowers are down right now. The self-propelled quit working on the push mower so my Dad & I took it to the shop, if it's the transmission I might as well buy a new one, let's hope it is only the belt. On the riding mower, my Dad & I got the belt back on the mower deck but the tire had a hole in it, but this tractor is only 44 years old!! So, my Dad had to work really hard but he finally got the tire off but it's such an odd size someone will have to order it for us, so I'm trying to get that ordered now & he showed me how to put it back on. I'm learning so much!! Just one of those things!!
When I was at DIL's parents with the kids on the 4th, I had those smae feelings...but, I just told myself "look at all that H is missing out on" and it helped me feel sorry for him instead of sorry for me!
I am glad that your Dad was there to help with the mowers! Yuck! Good luck with them!
I am glad that you enjoyed the time with your parents and now the peace at homw will be welcome!
Have a good week!
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Now is a good time to purchase new mowers of any kind because all of that type of equipment is going on sale.
Take care of yourself and don't stay out in the heat too long!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Snodderly, the tire is way too old, only 44 years & it had a huge hole in it, so no way. We are going to have to get a new one. We were going to try that until we saw the hole, way too big. I hope I don't have to buy a new mower, I still haven't heard from them to see if it's the transmisson or a belt, hopefully a belt!! It's pretty dry right now anyway, so I really don't have to mow. I'm pretty much staying inside, I just got thru watering plants. My tomatoes still look pretty good, I'm keeping my fingers crossed hoping they will be good. My parents said it looks like their garden is drying up.
I don't imagine where xh is they had fireworks since this was a US holiday, but I know one year she did mention going to the US embassy to celebrate, who knows. I'm sure xh didn't have as much fun as we used to have. He sure is missing out!!
I'm better this week, I'm dreading my 50th birthday coming up the 1st of August. It's a milestone & I won't have him to celebrate it with me, I guess the part that bothers me is I will be 50 years old & divorced & no one to share it with, meaning a mate. I think my Mom wants to go to Stone Mountain in Georgia, so my Dad said he would keep the dogs (I don't kennel) & my Mom & I should go for my birthday. So, I think we might do that, we would just stay a couple of nights, so that will be fun & different. But, it doesn't make it easier, since I will miss my xh so bad, he always treated me like a Queen on my birthday. They have been hard since he left but I think this one is going to be harder.
Doing my best to just turn it over to God, trying really hard!!
