W says the affair had nothing to do with her decession on the D.
Hope,
Look at my # of posts. Before this, I was Chocolateeyes, and I've been on these forums for six years. In that time, I have studied literally THOUSANDS of affairs, and I will tell you, about 95-99% of all cheating spouses say that.
It's SCRIPT.
I suggest you say "No, he was not the cause of all of our marital problems. But he is, make no mistake, the immediate OBSTACLE to us having any chance of solving them."
Any good individual counselor worth their salt (much less a good MC or FT) will tell your wife that she CANNOT make good decisions for herself while under the physiological and emotional influence of a third person -- an affair.
Sorry guys, Didn’t see the post till tonight again thanks for the support; just started reading the link from overcoming infidelity that I found on one of the other post… Thanks tonight will be short as I have gotten sick taken Nyquil and going to bed Thanks again Hope!!
