No..this was the texting going on when W was in Arkansas a week ago.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
CP, hold your horses. Get your ducks in a row. I know you're dying to expose right now and take action, but you're in an emotional state at the moment. That means you're going to react.
You've just been hit with a sledgehammer and are shattered right now. You don't want to make any mistakes. You get ONE chance at exposure. So do it right. You keep your head and RESPOND to this. I'm not up to speed on your thread. Take Puppy's advice and go look up his posts.
- Click on his name - Select View Posts
And a list of his posts comes up.
If I remember correctly, FormerlyKnownAsF's thread covers some stuff on exposure. Keep yourself busy reading that.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
CP, hold your horses. Get your ducks in a row. I know you're dying to expose right now and take action, but you're in an emotional state at the moment. That means you're going to react.
You've just been hit with a sledgehammer and are shattered right now. You don't want to make any mistakes. You get ONE chance at exposure. So do it right. You keep your head and RESPOND to this. I'm not up to speed on your thread. Take Puppy's advice and go look up his posts.
- Click on his name - Select View Posts
And a list of his posts comes up.
If I remember correctly, FormerlyKnownAsF's thread covers some stuff on exposure. Keep yourself busy reading that.
Will do. there is a lot I have already been reading. My emotion of it happening, is not bothering me. It the now. It all I think about, She is sneaking a call,text, etc. OM is doing the same. The continuing is what is getting me.
I left to go think at the park earlier. W kept texting and calling asking where I was at. Of course I didnt respond. When I got back she already pitched a fit and tore up my new copy of DR. I didnt get past chapter 2 or 3. :argh:
My thing I cant help is that she did this because of my past actions. I drove her away. I cant even look at her now..and when I do she looks different to me now.
Ill look at Form.F thread for guidance.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
My thing I cant help is that she did this because of my past actions. I drove her away. I cant even look at her now..and when I do she looks different to me now.
Wrong.
Cheating is about a person's character and personal integrity. Now, you may have done things that contributed to problems in your M, but you did not make her cheat!
People with high integrity leave one relationship before getting involved in another.
We will allow you to take the blame for the things you have done (and insist on it), but we will not allow you to take the blame for what she has done.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 07/05/1010:04 PM.
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My thing I cant help is that she did this because of my past actions. I drove her away. I cant even look at her now..and when I do she looks different to me now.
Wrong.
Cheating is about a person's character and personal integrity. Now, you may have done things that contributed to problems in your M, but you did not make her cheat!
People with high integrity leave one relationship before getting involved in another.
We will allow you to take the blame for the things you have done (and insist on it), but we will not allow you to take the blame for what she has done.
Thanks TH, It helps reading that.
Oh where the hell is Doc Brown and that Delorean?
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
Well my sister is engaged to be married. Since I have been so closed minded in my ways, I don't know much of her and her fiance. It another 180 i am doing. Being sociable. A good thing...or bad, is I am already asking for family favors. You see my sister father in law is a PI. From what my sister tells me is that he is willing to help. I need to confirm, but what sis told me is that he will be able to pull details from chats on FB,text, etc. So I will have to bite my tongue some more before confronting my wife.
It is tearing my stomach up. She knows something is up. I am trying to play it off, but it is hard to do.It consumes every thought. Now EVERY TIME I leave the house, she text and calls to see where I am going. I still do not tell, that angers her. Her empty threats to "call" her L do not work.
Strange that you actually love a person so much, even threw this hard time, you can forgive them and still want to be with them for the rest of your life. That is love.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
D -Pick up da phone!!!!!!!!! -We have no power -Texxt me wen u get there kkk
W -I made it tucker and I are gettin settled in our room!
D -That good does russ know yet
W -So far so good yup he knows but he at work so now he countin the hrs till he geT off work -Is dad in house? -Tomorrow I'll see him tomorrow for breakfast
D -Haaa wow he so excited i bet
W -Yeah he is he can't believe I came early
D -Lmao that so funny what he said wen u first told him
W -Well I gave him a hint and he didn't get it big goof ball lol I told him I had a surprise for him and I'd tell him when I hit shrevport lol he didn't catch on lol
D -Lmao nah redneck ha Lmao wowzer wen he jumped out the window did he fall head first or did a burning door hit his head lmao
W -Haha poor russ he aint all there and u clown my dumbass lol Lol
D -Lol everything will be alright.......i hope tell russs the south says wuzzzz uppp my homie lol nite
W -Nite
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W -Doin?
D -Watching ncis how was breakfast
W -Never ate breaky, I'm eatin papa johns right now haha
D -Haha met up wit russ yet
W -Yeah this mornin b4 he went to bed he very nice ----
D -What y'all doin?
W -Good just got back to hotel had drinks with the friend
I'm lost. This is your wife and your 14 year old daughter talking like this???
Good lord . . . someone cue the "Deliverance" theme!!!
I'm lost. This is your wife and your 14 year old daughter talking like this???
Good lord . . . someone cue the "Deliverance" theme!!!
Puppy
Yes..This hurts almost more than the EA/PA itself. I think when I confront W, WE would need to talk to D about this. I will let W explain that this was wrong and actions like this are not right.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
I left to the office at 5am to print out all text, FB post, etc.
W has been calling and texting since she got up a 6am. I havnt answered. I just dont think I can talk more less lokk at her now. I can avoid her now but not when I come home.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
