Forget about your WIFE. She is not your wife anymore. Try to think of her as just another hot single Mom that you might want to date. Which means that you know nothing about her past and that is a good thing. Be funny, be light, be ATTRACTIVE.
That's good G but don't let her think you're a revolving door she can keep going into and out of whenever she pleases. She probably feels too much in control...or maybe she really does finally realize what she's done and what she stands to lose for ever. That's good.
Have a safe trip.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
I don't like reading that she ran her fingers through your hair! Seems manipulative. But then again, I think you want to R with her, right? so maybe it didn't bother you...taking it in stride and being steady is so strong!!! Have a blast on your trip!
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Have a great holiday Geronimo. My holiday this year was a trip to the barbers...but he's a good barber and he even trims your eyebrows! It was worth that grueling 5 minute drive.
Thanks guys - made it to my sister's. Wouldn't you know it, xw called during the drive to the airport and said she had accidentally deposited the check intended for July 1... Meaning checks are going to bounce. She's going to arrange to deposit money back into my account on mon, but made another day about talking and testing about problems... Woulda like my break from her to start soon
It's OK if she calls about stuff...you don't want to give her a cold shoulder or cut her out of your life. Just let her do the calling/pursuing etc. Acknowledge, be polite and friendly - just don't discuss 'stuff' and if she does just validate and tell her you understand how she feels. She was in control until D but now you're the one in control, lead your life and family according to your wishes.
I guess sooner or later you'll have to answer the question at what point do you and her have the discussion but before that you need to be clear of your options and what you want for the rest of your life. You're lucky than most of us that she shows interest in you...I'm just not sure if it's based on guilt or true remorse for what she did.
But for now just enjoy time with your sis.
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Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Will be a good week.