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Hey Kara,

Just catching up on your sitch - you sound very empowered and I love the direction you are taking. Keep it up! I also felt shame at my marriage ending and telling people about it, I just don't mention it, if it comes up I gloss over it and generally people drop it.

Hey JC,

Thanks for dropping by. It is good to know that I sound empowered because sometimes I FEEL very UNEMPOWERED.

Hey Pearl,

Good suggestions. Let's hope I don't become a choco-alcoholic. Maybe I can just take both suggestions on board by eating wine or brandy flavored chocolates. Now there's a thought. LOL

I was going to suggest BOTH chocolate and a drink with the girls. Life is short; why choose?

Been following along in the background, Kara.

Cheers and good thoughts to you.

You eventually have to choose when you realize your pants are too tight! Perhaps both in moderation can be done.

Hey Pearl

The pants are a little tighter but still looking good!!! I guess hips don't lie

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Question: Is this possible for humans? I think only God is capable of this.

SUGGESTION: To the extent that it IS possible, we on this Board need to start extending unconditional love to ourselves. It is not selfish to be kind to yourself. We are concentrating too much on loving the WAS. " Oh, I luuuurrrve him/her. Sob , sob, sob. Poor old little me. Why did he/she do me wrong?". Spend a little time on self love. Do you. (Ooh, that sounds so wrong but you know what I mean)

Get crazy. Get lighthearted. Put on your sexist jeans and heels, Get your hair and nails done. Seek enlightenment. Seek inner peace. Paint your nails green/blue/yellow/pink/orange. Get your glow on.

It is SUMMER TIME. Make the livin' as easy as you can.

(note to self: wine may be getting to me)

An ideal to strive for but impossible to reach. But I agree with you that unconditional love towards ourselves is the place to start. Most of how people hurt others is an outward projection of their own inner confusion/hurt. When people practice emotional self care they are better people, inside and out.



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Hey Aver, flow. Hope you're doing well.

I had a great week and even greater weekend.

I have been hitting the gym extra hard and it really does leave me with a very positive outlook. And I am feeling strong physically, which is always good.

I have had some hectic weekends recently. I have been doing quite a bit of partying and going out. Very unlike OLD KARA. But it feels good to get out there and hang out with friends in places I haven't been in a long time. My only question is - what took me so long?

It feels good to get dressed up and go out. To spray on my new summer fragrance and wear sundresses, capris, shorts. To eat outdoors with friends. To spend time by the pool reading. To finally focus on ME. To look forward to the weekend instead of dreading it. To plan my vacation and get excited.

That's a lot to be thankful for. I feel like somebody stole my life and I am now taking it back.

Hope everyone has a great week!