My husband is very infatuated with the young girl, but also seems to be pursuing a woman who he was in a relationship with when I met him. This woman is 40, mother of three teens, and someone he always said he could never fall in love with. So...why is he pursuing his older ex-girlfriend when he feels so "in love" with the 19 year-old?
He is looking for a band-aid for his pain and depression. He may think that the pain is caused by what he may have missed when younger. He may be doing other things also for this purpose, searching for freedom from responsibility. When one woman doesn't do it, he may look for others. Be patient, he will eventually face what he needs to face up to.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
My kids speak up tho too. DS13 told me he saw a H2O blaster when they were in Walgreens. The 2 was really small so it looked like HO blaster and DS pointed it out To H. "hey Dad, can I use this on your girlfriend?" H said, "How would like me to talk like that about your girlfriend?" without missing a beat, DS says "my girlfriend didn't break up our family and make you leave me."
LOL! Nearly sprayed my mouthful of drink at the computer monitor when I saw that one! Way to go DS 13!
My H told S13 that OW father had just died. S calmly looked at H and said she had her dad for 47 years I had mine for 13 years before she stole him.............
So I should say nothing about the OW? Should I expose the secret affair H is having, or just keep my mouth shut? I am thinking I should NOT expose the affair because it will just give him MORE justification to treat me so nasty and it will bring them CLOSER. But I have also read that what makes their type of affair so appealing is the secrecy and it will usually last longer... ?
M: 34 WAH: 38 (in MLC) Together: 11 years Married since: November 2000 DS: 15 DS: 11 DS: 10 ILYBINILWY: Dec. 2009 Living separately since: April 2010
