Allen, i agree and well thats where I am headed. But seriously, if i report her for the threats breaking no contact which Lawyer will say to do, because he hates her basically.
I just dont know how jail time would help? Maybe it could, maybe it wouldn't. Now I do have a opportunity to improve my case by reporting her, but at the same time I would like to let it all go and do nothing.
At this stage in the game, she is already in a cesspool of madness. I thought mental inquest would be a good inbetween. It helps my Court Case by adding a additional layer of security, and also just maybe she wouldnt beat the psych eval and would get some real help.
I am just not sure how to proceed. I already know what L will say, he said it before. Any time she acts up CALL THE POLICE, FILE WARRANTS, etc...
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
There is a man who is a patient at the psych I see. We seem to be on the same appt. schedule because he is always there when I am. This man has SEVERE PTSD. I feel very sad for him because he just sits there and rocks and fidgets and looks like he could just flip out at any second. The last appt. we both had the dr. was running very late and he told me "man, I just want to get in there, say what they want me to say and get my meds".
I am not saying jail is the answer either but if you are unwilling to press charges for her violations then be prepared to NOT be able to use them in your case. Because it will be asked of you why you are bringing up the violations now and chose to do nothing about them when they happened.
Update - WAW once again brought OM around my daughters visitation, and it is upsetting her boss. Her boss told my sister everything, alot of what I already know anyway.
WAW's work performance is bad, having OM in bosses house, FB garbage, threats to her Bosses son and wife, and in general her boss said she wants to get away from being the court appointed monitor. The bosses Son and Wife, are still thinking over filing warrants on WAW for the threats etc....
It is looking as if she is going to lose her job, and also I have learned she is now living with OM. Her boss told my sister that she sees no reason for the foster care, and that shed prefer DD1 to be with me. This is very very good for my case having her testify and also her son and his wife.
Also, WAW caught wind of the fact I will be going for full custody and called me 2-3 times breaking no contact, 3rd time I was like what do you want??? She said that she would fight it, and that I need to move on, the marriage is over. Typical WAW crap.
I mentioned that we could repair the M, but only after she gets help.
I said look I am doing what is best for DD1 and there is nothing you can do about it, because right now your to unstable to be a mom. Then I hung up.
She is basically nervous now that the people who were helping her now see right through her. They think she is a sociopath and only cares for herself. I am beginning to think this as well.
I continue to detach, and ponder if i should report this to the courts. I will be definitely be reporting this to the CPS worker without no doubt, but to take it a step further I could just go report this to the criminal court.
Not sure what to do really, maybe I just need to lay low.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
Sociopathy is a common symptomo f the addiction... people who are serious addicts become users.. they will use whatever and whomever they can to support their infidelity etc...
You sound like yo have the hang of it... state your position and hang up.. that's the best way to handle it...
Keep exposing so everyone konws you are being a mature adult.. don't hide at all.. keep your face out there to combat her damage control efforts...
The more they see you calm and mature the less they are gonig to buy of her lies
I don't think you ever totally do. But as I read back in my daily journal that I kept, the ratio of stuff I wrote about HER, and what I wrote about ME and MY KIDS slowly did change. Whenever I read your posts, all I see is her, her, her, and all of her and her family's DRAMA.
I think you need to focus more on yourself, and let her twist in the wind. DROP THE ROPE!!!
