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All - I am being served with D papers today. I guess she decided not to wai till Sept.

And.......

You will take that, and FEEL it, and not let that hinder YOUR process for now....

At least I HOPE that is what you do.....

Nothing is definite Eric....

Unless YOU hire some fat lady to sing while they are serving you.

Eric -

Sorry to hear that. I know you weren't expecting it yet. She is doing what she feels she needs to do.

Mach is right. Don't let this change your progress.

First sorry for this pain.

Second and not to be an ass, well too much of an ass : )
Do you see your hand in her decision to up the date?

I am sorry to hear the latest news Eric.

Your latest sentiments and goals are great. Keep it up.

Try to have your L deal with custody and a parenting plan first. It worked very well in my situation to not mix financials with the kids.

Things may seem bleak to you now. I felt similar when I was going through my D. However, my life is real hunky dory right now as a single dad. Keep your chin up.

Eric,
So sorry for the pain you are feeling today. The only thing you can do is sit down, shut up and feel. Everything you say and do today will be tainted with hurtful feelings. Best to avoid and conversation with W and if possible to avoid looking for a solution to your problem.

As much as I respect Jack, please don't think about what you did or didn't do wrong. You are at a point were dwelling on those things could cause you to slide back to a point you don't want to be.

God bless. You are in my prayers.

Thank you Jack and Mach.

Yes Jack and know my role in forcing this. I pushed it. I did not deal with the OM well. I confronted when I thought I was "done" and I was really not done. Now I must just feel this pain and continue on the path of learning. This will impact my kids the most. I did speak with her and asked why she did not tell me and why she did not wait till Sept. I also asked what she is looking for and she has indicated that she will go for everything.

As you can imagine I feel like shi* right now.

Eric

Let your L deal with this. It bugs me to hear about spouses who go on a path of destruction against the spouse they once pledged their hearts to.

Sadly, in a way, your W is now the enemy while you go through this painful legal battle. Keep your cards close to your chest.

E—

I too am sorry to hear about this turn of events.

While you need to feel this and move through it…

Don’t let it alter your path…

Do look at your role in it…Learn from it…

You never know what is around the corner…

Eric,

Do I seem like the "I told you so" type or, the kid who liked to pour salt on a slug?

If you think I did that for any other reason than to help you improve YOU then, then I am not the guy you want near you or offering words.