Upside I understand what you are doing and maybe your H will feel the loss as you move forward maybe he will not be able to work through his Issues even with the loss I guess it is always a guess as we never really know what the mlcer will do Their behavior and thought processes are mind boggling peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
peace- There is no predicting what my H will do and I'm trying not to think about it...but I'm not always successful. I want to move forward regardless of what he does. It is hard though...I do have these thoughts that keep popping in my head...why doesn't he file the D?...what did he expect to accomplish by talking to me the other day?...will he ever be able to get past whatever it is that keeps him stuck?
I have to keep telling myself that I am losing nothing by continuing down this path. I am no longer waiting for my H to figure himself out...Now I am trying to just figure myself out. So, I just need to figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life. Hmmm...Where to begin?
Upside I am arriving in CA tomorrow. I will call you this week, so we can hang out.
I see your h as depressed and until that depression lifts he won't be able to make progress.
When I look out on the horizon all I see is a field of wreckage. Do I pick this piece up and deal with it or this one first or do I just turn the other way and walk away.
It won't be easy if your h returns either. Do what feels right for you Upside. That is really all you can do at the moment.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Upside, It sounds as if you are as confused as I am. I'm as stuck in limbo land as my WH. I am trying hard to move forward, and keep getting caught in the rut. As Glamgirl says, you have to do what is right for you, but I wish I just know what that was. ((hugs))
