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Your best move is to continue to make no move. Your D will eventually be free of him anyway. I know she's not happy right now, but she should also just ignore his threats, especially the one about her not being believed, or the one where you will be jailed (how ironic that the person who should be in jail is threatening it). If she is going through the California courts, perhaps they will believe her story about how her father has treated her, forced her to do things she didn't want to do. Kids are more believed these days then abusive parents.

BeingMe,

I'm sure you are right, however, D won't qualify for the emancipation because she is still living with her Father. D also won't say a word about the abuse until she knows she is safe.

This is so typical of Dick... to lay her freedom out in front of her, yet it's impossible for her to achieve.

He drove me crazy by these games of his, although, I did learn how to do the impossible with nothing at all.

Refresh my memory, wasn't there court not that long ago where your D did not speak up?

I think your D needs to seek help from an agency or group in CA where she lives. School teachers, Child Services, a support group that deals with abusive parents. I suppose the police won't get involved if there is no physical violence.

How is the granddad? is he still living there too?

Your D seems very capable, you can emotionally support her but I believe action on your part is going to do more harm than good.

I meant she will be old enough to leave and do as she pleases thus gaining her freedom. I doubt if this emancipation thing will fly ... your XH is just playing games. I also think she needs to seek help; to tell someone else in authority what is going on. This man is clever enough not to leave physical marks, but he sure leaves emotional and psychological marks ... she needs to speak and let it all out even if they can't do anything about it.