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Romeo,
My humble suggestions.

FWIW.

OF, I was wondering where you've been. Good to see you here and thanks for the input.

I always remembered what you said and it's why I switched attorneys, the previous one (just like antler's attorney) was a lazy dirtbag who was telling me to be 'reasonable' with STBXW during the temp support arrangements. That was the last straw and I got rid of him. Money wasted? yes...did I take action to protect myself better though, absolutely.

OF, when you say man-up, tell me how...I'm ready to do it. I have to say that this is helping me big time detaching from her emotionally. In fact, I already want her to get away from me and leave me the heck alone. How sad...this is the woman for whom I cried like a little boy and wanted her even after what she did.

Gardener,
T H A N K - Y O U!!!

Her response:



So what do I need to say now?

Romeo,
What do you think you need to say?

How about, "tomorrow doesn't work for me. Later next week, I'll let you know when."

Then talk to your L Monday.

Thanks G. I'm thinking more along the lines of:

"Then please clarify, that was the point of the email- duh!

I realize you need your stuff soon so I recommend that you draw up your list and send it to the lawyers sooner than later."

Your thoughts?

That's a good question - have you asked your L how to proceed?

In our agreement, we didn't specify at all, just said we'd divide the household assets.

Actually we didn't really "agree" - she took a bunch of crap when she moved, which I did get angry about. But in the end, it IS just stuff, I got over it. I bought a new TV, and haven't replaced the bedroom suite - I cared at first, but crap it IS just stuff.

Is there precedence for DD going to private elementry school? If I recall your sitch correctly, there isn't, but I'm not certain. Yeah ask your lawyer - you guys are going to have joint legal custody, right? I agree with OF - don't think you should be compelled to send DD to private school, and I think that's your decision about how you are going to spend YOUR money. But ask the lawyer, if she's seeking for that to be part of the agreement, how that works. Crap, if that's so important to her then, she can apply your child support payments to private school.

You're exactly right. She can easily pay for it from the cs+alimony payments. However she won't. I think what she wants to "clear up" is probably the school district. She likely wants her to go to the one where she's renting. It's a bit more upscale but had she not left DD would've gone to the district where the house is.

As for the stuff...I'll talk to my lawyer this week but it's about principal. She wants to do everything how it suits her I.e. Take me to court when it's in her interest and negotiate out of court when it suits her. I'm not going to be her puppet. Then getting petty about few dollars when I'm paying her thousands of dollars of my paycheck. She could at least show some respect and appreciation. However the bigger issue is that I want EVERYTHING to be listed and divided in one swoop. Not her coming back every week asking for something new.

It's funny how she's always playing a victim when all this is her doing (the divorce) and I'm the one losing everything because she never pAid for anything of value.

Time to get out of bed and go get DD.

Remember, in their minds they are always the victims of our poor husbandry (is that a word?).

you could simply state that you are waiting for a call back for your lawyer

Cori's ex is nuts

we don't do anything without talking to the attorney

and

she knows it

it doesn't change anything
her knowing we talk to an attorney or not

so

let her know that you are dealing with everything through an attorney

maybe she will stop trying to badger you into stuff