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I am helping run our State Speech contest this weekend! We are hosting at our beautiful new high school, I can't wait! What is her category? You are doing very well, Bridge...

Hi Lola
Thanks for stopping by..
yeah.. grief. One thing I learned early in my WAW days.. I didn't know how to grieve, I still don't do it very well, but who does?

More chapters closing today as we finalize banking & financial stuff.

Hope to see more of you.. maybe you can impart some wisdom for me on how to choose more wisely after ending an abusive R.

Peace
Bridge

Funny all the places an education helps.. something that to me is a priceless asset.

Thanks for checking on me & providing your support, it means a lot
Peace
Bridge

Hi BobbiJo,

A new high school!!?? Wow, lucky you guys, in this economy. How did it go for you in that corner of the state?

D15 did very well.. she went in improv (got a 1) and oratory (got a 2). For a 9th grader I was so pleased & proud of her!!

Her brother also did very well in speech, when he was in high school, making All-State a couple times, also in improv & spontaneous speaking.

What a wonderful competition to give those with that kind of talent a showcase for it.

I'm glad you think I'm doing well... to me I'm just eating the elephant one bite at a time.

I'm glad someone that is a bit removed from the feast can see if it's disappearing!

Thanks for stopping by!
Peace
Bridge

Hello all that are reading along.

I started down the 'name change' maze today. Everything except my passport, a plane ticket & the social security card are DONE!

I signed my new name on my drivers license, bank account, and life insurance policy. Although I'm still introducing my self by my married name.. I think that will take some time.

By Wednesday... everything, except the plane ticket (which they apparently can't or won't do) will be in my maiden name.

Somethings are amazingly easy.. others (see the plane ticket) are not.

Joint financial pieces are also separating today & tomorrow that will also be completed. It is amazing to really sit back & look at how many places we overlapped our lives & how many things there are to disintangle.

Ironically, we had to educate some bankers today about what we could & couldn't do. With a 50% divorce rate you'd think this would be 2nd nature to them... apparently not.

I'm enjoying a beautiful spring day on my parent's back porch with an MGD, my dog at my feet & I will be picking my D15 up from play practice after supper....

..pleasure in small things.

Peace
Bridge

Make sure you hang onto something that matches the plane ticket! When XW changed her drivers license they told her to keep the old one, 'cause she'd need it! (That was in addition to giving her the new one.)

Absolutely hang on to the old driver's license and take a copy of the divorce decree with you showing the name progression. They will give you nothing but hassles at the airport about this. Security is becoming more and more strict by the day. Trust me.....I'm a corporate travel agent. You wouldn't believe the hoops I've had to help some people through when they've had name issues at the airport. the airlines will never change a name on an issued ticket. The systems are set up so that it can't even be done. The airlines are a power all of their own and play by their own rules anyway. Don't try to make sense out of it...it's a losing battle!

Here's to moving on, living large, and taking charge!!!

Ugh. Name change. A couple of weeks ago I was really dreading that. Now, I think I'd prefer W drop my name. She's rejecting everything else about our time together.

Financial stuff has taken 10 long months to separate -- mostly because I'm dragging my feet. We still have car insurance together because it's cheaper and I'm still on her insurance.

It'll hit me when I have to choose insurance. I've been on hers for so long I know nothing about it.

Hey Bridge,

A name change, that's awesome!!! Don't blow it with some lame predictable everyday moniker. Maybe now is the time to revive Mike's old thread on porno names.

What was it, your first pet + the street you lived on? I'd be Stefly Hurt. Hmmm, maybe not.

Thanks for all the great advice.. sadly, I turned in the Driver's license, the passport I'm sure will have to be given up.

The only option is probably the SS card for the time being. I do have my faculty ID with my old name on it and a picture.. maybe that will suffice along with the divorce decree.

As far as choosing a lame predictable moniker.. I'll have to blame my parents for the one I'm reusing. I forgot how difficult it is for people to spell it as well as pronounce it... silly 5 letter name that it is.

As far as Mike's old thread..

I would be Peggy Danburn. Not lame at all..

I pity my D15 if she played this game.

Zeus 280th

not quite the same with the rural E911 addresses and a male dog!

night everyone!
Bridge