The only time the appearance and weight of my wife is important to me is if it is causing problems (physical/emotional) with her. Otherwise I could care less. My wife has gained 45 pounds since we got married and I love her just as much now as I did when we first got married...maybe a little more since there is more to love. :-)
I'll throw in my two bits here. The rest of the quote is "...multiplied by your attitude." I don't remember exactly where I read that (and I'm sure I've partially misquoted it) but I think you get the idea. Like many of the others who've posted here, I still find my wife attractive even though she's gone from 135 pounds to around 190. Yes, I wish she'd lose some of the weight, but not primarily so she'd look better to me. Rather, it's for the positive effects it would have on her health and her self-image.
Go back to the quote I started with and recall your elementary school math: What's ANYTHING multiplied by zero? That's right - zero! So if I tell my wife she's still beautiful to me, either A) I'm lying (probably because I want something) or B) I left my glasses in the other room. Not only does it bother her much more than it does me, but then she projects her feelings and concludes I can't really mean what I say I mean. So she has a whole drawer of lingerie which she hasn't worn a single time in nearly three years. But I digress....
To make a long story short, if your husband says he likes the way you look, take him at his word. I know I see a lot of the actresses & models on TV and think, "Quick! Somebody FEED that woman!" If weight bothers you, do something about it, but as a previous poster said, do it to feel better about yourself. Good Luck!!
HERE is Edward Bear, coming downstairs now, bump, bump, bump, on the back of his head, behind Christopher Robin...sometimes he feels that there really is another way [of coming downstairs], if only he could stop bumping for a moment and think of it.
MSM, I was very thin growing up and my weight was holding ok even after two kids. After the third I lost most of my weight but was not "thin" I guess around a size 12-14. When I went to work 9 years ago I started gaining weight. I ate from stress and Lord knows I had a ton of stress with a sick husband and an extremely taxing job. I would gain and lose, gain and lose but NEVER got down to my previous size 12-14. My H was not thrilled about it and let me know that he did not like it and he had not married an overweight person. I know that he still loved me - but I didn't fly in yesterday - he liked the way I looked before gaining weight. When all of this LD hit us due to illness/medication I thought that one way to improve our relationship was to lose the weight - I didn't want ANYTHING to hinder our sex life. I went to Weight Watchers last June 21 and have lost a substantial amount of weight. I now wear a size 10 jeans and am heading for size 8. I feel good about losing the weight - it feels good to go into the store and buy the cute little tops and jeans. My H thinks that I look great and I am glad for that. We are currently working on the LD problem but I know that I have done everything possible to remove some of the obsticales. I know that it is not easy to do but it has been nice to see approval in my husband's eyes and occationally desire. I am working on seeing the desire more often!
MSM, There is an old saying that I live by "Meat is for the man, bone is for the dog!" Said with an Eastern European accent, it's perfect.
I am not a chubby chaser, however I do like a little extra on a woman. Curvy = Sexy!
W wieghed between 150-165 over our twenty years and every day complained about her weight. Last year, she joined a gym to feel & look better. My insecurity told me, "Great, just what I need. She'll get thin & hot and dump me." Well 4 sizes later I was right. Not that I am fat, but I do love beer & wings! So, for the last year I have been excersizing at home (something I never did) maintaining around 200# on 6' frame. Well, 5 weeks ago she asked me to leave. Today I weighed in at 188! Great weight loss plan huh!
Do whatever YOU feel comfortable with. Ultimately it's all about you! Jimmer
